Hi everyone. I'm hoping for some advice on my current situation. Right now I'm in a fantastic FMF triad. I've been with our boyfriend 9 years and we have been with our girlfriend for almost 2. We've had issues along the way to work through along the way but we've always come out the other side stronger.
The issue now is our girlfriend wants kids. Our boyfriend and I have two children together from before we met our girlfriend and Indo not want to carry any more, though I have no objection to helping raise more children. I have said however she wants to go about having a baby, I'll be there to support her and help where it's wanted, but she's just recently told me that she doesn't want to be part of a triad with a baby. She wants to be in a monogamous relationship with a man that 'is all hers' I'm devastated. I really love her and I know our boyfriend does too. It feels like we've been used as a stop gap till she finds what she really wants. I understand people change, needs and wants evolve or change completely, but it's hard to deal with. Especially when she said she knew going in that she wanted a traditional mononormative family, but didn't tell us that.
I'm not looking for advice on how to change her mind or anything like that, just on how to deal with this now. Part of me wants to break it off now rather than wait till she does and go back to just me and my boyfriend.
The issue now is our girlfriend wants kids. Our boyfriend and I have two children together from before we met our girlfriend and Indo not want to carry any more, though I have no objection to helping raise more children. I have said however she wants to go about having a baby, I'll be there to support her and help where it's wanted, but she's just recently told me that she doesn't want to be part of a triad with a baby. She wants to be in a monogamous relationship with a man that 'is all hers' I'm devastated. I really love her and I know our boyfriend does too. It feels like we've been used as a stop gap till she finds what she really wants. I understand people change, needs and wants evolve or change completely, but it's hard to deal with. Especially when she said she knew going in that she wanted a traditional mononormative family, but didn't tell us that.
I'm not looking for advice on how to change her mind or anything like that, just on how to deal with this now. Part of me wants to break it off now rather than wait till she does and go back to just me and my boyfriend.