AlwaysGrowing
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I just heard about a Poly Speed Dating event being held in my neck of the woods, and I was curious if anyone had ever been to one before. As soon as I heard about it, I signed up because I'm super curious, but now I'm kind of having an "Oh, shit. What did I get myself into?!" kind of moment.
Anyone ever heard of or been to one of these? I know they have (or have had) them in the Bay Area, Boston, and a few other locations.
The way it was explained to me is that it is very similar to traditional speed dating except more complex. Shocking, right? I had to fill out a questionnaire about gender preferences (how I identify as well as whether or not I'm interested in male/female/trans/etc), relationship style preferences (am I only interested in solo men, solo women, couples of various configuration, groups, etc), whether or not I'm kinky, and whether or not I'm okay with "friend" dates if there aren't enough people who fit my relationship preferences to have a date each round. At the beginning of the event, they give each person a number and a list of who (or maybe where?) there dates will be.
The algorithm itself intrigues me, because they didn't really ask anything other than basic preferences. No questions about interests, ethics (other than we are at a poly event, so I guess it's assumed everyone is okay with poly - but that's pretty vague), goals, primary-secondary model or not, or anything like that. I wonder how successful it will actually be at matching people who are compatible past the bare essentials.
So, yes. This was my rambling, and if anyone has something to contribute, that would be awesome!
Anyone ever heard of or been to one of these? I know they have (or have had) them in the Bay Area, Boston, and a few other locations.
The way it was explained to me is that it is very similar to traditional speed dating except more complex. Shocking, right? I had to fill out a questionnaire about gender preferences (how I identify as well as whether or not I'm interested in male/female/trans/etc), relationship style preferences (am I only interested in solo men, solo women, couples of various configuration, groups, etc), whether or not I'm kinky, and whether or not I'm okay with "friend" dates if there aren't enough people who fit my relationship preferences to have a date each round. At the beginning of the event, they give each person a number and a list of who (or maybe where?) there dates will be.
The algorithm itself intrigues me, because they didn't really ask anything other than basic preferences. No questions about interests, ethics (other than we are at a poly event, so I guess it's assumed everyone is okay with poly - but that's pretty vague), goals, primary-secondary model or not, or anything like that. I wonder how successful it will actually be at matching people who are compatible past the bare essentials.
So, yes. This was my rambling, and if anyone has something to contribute, that would be awesome!