Hi,
I really need some help/insight. I am in a long distance relationship with a girl in France (I'm in North America). We met in Australia and were seeing eachother (not dating) for about 5 months there before I left. She visited me herein Florida and, then she went back home to France. Things were good and we were talking every day. We love and miss each other very much. Anyway, There is a girl, whom I also met in Australia, that is coming to visit me from London (and thus we shall call her London). My girlfriend and I talked about having an open relationship while we are apart and we agreed that we would, we just didn't want to know any details about it. Recently, London decided to post that she got her tickets and is coming to Florida between __ date and __ date. She didn't say she is coming to visit me specifically or whatever because she's not, she has other friends here too buuuut my girlfriend (btw, we are a new couple, only been official for about 2+ months) saw this post, went to Londons facebook page and looked at all her pics and then immediately started assuming the worst and has been in a bad way ever since. We skyped today like we always do but we put everything on the table. I made her tell me exactly what she was afraid of etc and it came down to her giving me an ultimatum. Have sex with London and lose her or don't have sex with London and don't lose her.
I know none of you know me and this just sounds like a dude who wants to bang other girls but this is not the case. I love and care about my girlfriend very much but this is who I am. I have gone through many trials and errors and have been researching sexuality for about a year and have been struggling with this for quite some time. After all the studying and self examination I have concluded that the correct lifestyle for me to follow in order to be the happiest is a poly lifestyle. I just don't know how to transition my partner into it or even talk to her about it.
Feel free to ask any questions you want about me or anything, I'm an open book. I don't want to lose her but I won't lie to her.
I forgot to explain London. She and I met in Aus. She stayed at mine for a night then decided to extend her flight for another 5 days. We have amazing, mind blowing, no limits sex and our flirty, playful personality chemistry is off the charts but we are just friends who fuck, a playmate, that's it. She is the polar opposite of my girlfriend who is sweet, lovable and almost innocent.
I really need some help/insight. I am in a long distance relationship with a girl in France (I'm in North America). We met in Australia and were seeing eachother (not dating) for about 5 months there before I left. She visited me herein Florida and, then she went back home to France. Things were good and we were talking every day. We love and miss each other very much. Anyway, There is a girl, whom I also met in Australia, that is coming to visit me from London (and thus we shall call her London). My girlfriend and I talked about having an open relationship while we are apart and we agreed that we would, we just didn't want to know any details about it. Recently, London decided to post that she got her tickets and is coming to Florida between __ date and __ date. She didn't say she is coming to visit me specifically or whatever because she's not, she has other friends here too buuuut my girlfriend (btw, we are a new couple, only been official for about 2+ months) saw this post, went to Londons facebook page and looked at all her pics and then immediately started assuming the worst and has been in a bad way ever since. We skyped today like we always do but we put everything on the table. I made her tell me exactly what she was afraid of etc and it came down to her giving me an ultimatum. Have sex with London and lose her or don't have sex with London and don't lose her.
I know none of you know me and this just sounds like a dude who wants to bang other girls but this is not the case. I love and care about my girlfriend very much but this is who I am. I have gone through many trials and errors and have been researching sexuality for about a year and have been struggling with this for quite some time. After all the studying and self examination I have concluded that the correct lifestyle for me to follow in order to be the happiest is a poly lifestyle. I just don't know how to transition my partner into it or even talk to her about it.
Feel free to ask any questions you want about me or anything, I'm an open book. I don't want to lose her but I won't lie to her.
I forgot to explain London. She and I met in Aus. She stayed at mine for a night then decided to extend her flight for another 5 days. We have amazing, mind blowing, no limits sex and our flirty, playful personality chemistry is off the charts but we are just friends who fuck, a playmate, that's it. She is the polar opposite of my girlfriend who is sweet, lovable and almost innocent.