LovingRadiance
Active member
Hopefully this shows up
"There are douchebags and there are poly people. There is over lap. However, being a douchebag does not make you poly and being poly does not make you a douchebag. In other words, a person's douchebaggery transcends their relationship status, sexuality, sex, race, religion and all that. It stands on it's own!" - Vixtoria 4/23/13, new to poly an having difficulty thread on polyamory.com
... so when did it get accepted that polyamory also meant no desire to love another at all ?
i'm kinda curious how long this will take now
3 pages of posts ...
a full day later ...
and people still can't understand a simple point
so i am starting somewhere, and people are lost, so lost.
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lets try again, ...
poly, being in love with more than one (or the potential to be in love with more than one)
what is it called when there is no love ?
Edit:
for Jane (seem extra confused), ... no desire to love (i don't know why i thought i mentioned this already, guess it was overlooked)
What is "that" in this question? Is it the swinger doing the describing? Is it the description of the swinger? What is "it"? A gender-neutral swinger who says they're not poly? Is it the swinger saying they're not poly or is it someone else?how does one describe a swinger then that says it's not poly ?
Watch yourself. You are being pretty rude and insulting here, and are coming close to attacking. The fact is that people have just been trying to make sense of your wording. There is no reason to complain about people not "getting it" when you generally do not write in clear, complete sentences. The statements you've made about using the word "poly" really do not make much sense.Jane, because polyamory, as loose and varies as the term is, means nothing to anyone, might as well still be in the closet by sating you are poly
Jane, because even something as simple as trying to identify what poly is not seems to be beyond your grasp
Edit:
there is a bit more to this idea, but seems kinda pointless to get into it at all, the basics seem over most peoples heads, the obvious (to me) part builds on that, ... and the reasons behind it ... well if you're lost on the basics, the point to it you'll never have a hope with.