I'm the one who wanted to go from mono to poly. We have been working really hard on communicating until we are exhausted, processing our feelings, figuring out what we want our guidelines to be. We are in therapy.
My husband has asked one person out who said no
He's on an online site and not having luck with it.
I want to talk to my long time friend/crush about whether he's interested in dating. I have been talking to him about this for a month. He was very uncomfortable with it but we have worked through so much.
I really thought he was going to give me the go ahead last night and he didn't. He said he needs more time. And then today I felt really depressed about it. I am trying to go at his pace. He said he feels like he is being selfish and logically it doesn't make sense that he's not ok.
We tales through a lot of his fears. He did tell me it would be easier om him if he already had someone to date. But in therapy she said that it's not right for one person to have to wait for the other one.
I just asked him again if he is ready or if we should wait to talk about it in therapy or what. He said he didn't know.
I'm trying so hard to be patient and understanding but this is upsetting me. What would you do?
My husband has asked one person out who said no
He's on an online site and not having luck with it.
I want to talk to my long time friend/crush about whether he's interested in dating. I have been talking to him about this for a month. He was very uncomfortable with it but we have worked through so much.
I really thought he was going to give me the go ahead last night and he didn't. He said he needs more time. And then today I felt really depressed about it. I am trying to go at his pace. He said he feels like he is being selfish and logically it doesn't make sense that he's not ok.
We tales through a lot of his fears. He did tell me it would be easier om him if he already had someone to date. But in therapy she said that it's not right for one person to have to wait for the other one.
I just asked him again if he is ready or if we should wait to talk about it in therapy or what. He said he didn't know.
I'm trying so hard to be patient and understanding but this is upsetting me. What would you do?