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Now you're being deliberately obtuse. Have fun with that.Funny, but of the four quote you chose, only one of them refers to gender. That statement was regarding her writing style.
Now you're being deliberately obtuse. Have fun with that.Funny, but of the four quote you chose, only one of them refers to gender. That statement was regarding her writing style.
I only visit a guy's profile if his message to me is a damn good one. The message's content has got to entice me (with intelligence, a sense of humor, and proof that he has read my profile) before I will even consider looking at his profile, because I know that he will see that I looked. So, really, while a well-written profile is essential -- the message is the key, and extremely important!I have sent out a lot of nice messages on OKC with probably a 40% reply rate, which I just chalk up to those people being not interested for whatever reason and not that I didn't write a nice enough message. They should be able to get a good feel for you by looking at your profile, which means it is pretty important to create a good profile.
Guys don't buy women drinks anymore, and especially not as a way to meet someone they don't know. If there is still a bar in existence in 2015 where this actually happens, please tell me where it is! I do miss those days.If you are in a bar and a guy offers to buy you a drink, would you look him over then ignore him if he wasn't attractive enough? Or would you just say "No thanks." Or you could accept the drink and converse with the guy a bit instead of making a shallow decision based solely on looks.
Guys don't buy women drinks anymore, and especially not as a way to meet someone they don't know. If there is still a bar in existence in 2015 where this actually happens, please tell me where it is! I do miss those days.
Guys don't buy women drinks anymore, and especially not as a way to meet someone they don't know. If there is still a bar in existence in 2015 where this actually happens, please tell me where it is! I do miss those days.
Guys don't buy women drinks anymore, and especially not as a way to meet someone they don't know. If there is still a bar in existence in 2015 where this actually happens, please tell me where it is! I do miss those days.
Well, yes, but a guy can slip a roofie into a drink she bought herself just as easily as a drink he'd bought her. Getting slipped a mickey wasn't only dependent upon the guy buying the drink. And anyway, back in the 70s through the 90s, when men still bought women drinks, they didn't just walk over to the woman with drink in hand.Too many roofies being slipped into drinks these days. From what I hear, young women take very good care to get their own drinks, and not leave the drink unattended if they go to the loo.
Well, there are places where it is still done, but in most major cosmopolitan areas, it's considered by men in their 40s and under to be a waste of time and money to buy a strange woman a drink. There was a big discussion about this on OKCupid once.My ex claims she rarely has to buy a drink if she goes out. She is very social though. She is down in South Florida.
Yeah well, guys nowadays consider it strange and slutty for a woman to do that. I tried it and got weird reactions. It was always something I used to do, back in the days when it was customary for men to ask if they can buy a drink for a woman. Next one was on me, or I'd send a drink over to someone. But no more, because if most of the guys out at bars don't want to buy a strange woman a drink, they will consider a woman who buys them a drink just desperate or weird, which I think is a shame because if you're the type of person who likes going to bars, buying someone a drink can be a fun way to meet people, as long as there is no obligation attached to it (like expecting sex in exchange).. . . And this IS 2015...women are allowed to buy a guy a drink as well.
Yeah well, guys nowadays consider it strange and slutty for a woman to do that. I tried it and got weird reactions. It was always something I used to do, back in the days when it was customary for men to ask if they can buy a drink for a woman. Next one was on me, or I'd send a drink over to someone. But no more, because if most of the guys out at bars don't want to buy a strange woman a drink, they will consider a woman who buys them a drink just desperate or weird, which I think is a shame because if you're the type of person who likes going to bars, buying someone a drink can be a fun way to meet people, as long as there is no obligation attached to it (like expecting sex in exchange).
I agree it is a fun way to meet people. I'm also glad it still happens here in Seattle.
I lived in Seattle for 20 years and not once did a random man buy me a drink. Seattle men strike me as the least likely to be keeping up this quaint tradition, but maybe buying a girl a drink got soooooo out of fashion that Seattle hipsters have picked it up again as THE thing to do. That's usually how it goes there. It happened to flannel shirts and bike riding. The PacNW is a kingdom of ironically re-kindled pasttimes that have fallen out of fashion. Folk music festival, anyone?
Haha, FA, folk music festivals have always been in fashion somewhere.
And FYI, vinsanity0, I've had several long term relationships that started out after someone bought me a drink at a bar. Just hasn't happened in a really long time - but, IME, it can happen!
Loving this thread! I am a cold and prickly curmudgeon, surly even...and I love it when folks want to buy me drinks. My answer is always YES. Then I tell them about my husband and my boyfriend...