CarolinaMiz
New member
So I am a PolyWog - yeah I feel like that about right now.
So I wrote out this long detailed story and it just made me cringe. Basically, I started dating a man who identifies as poly and we seemed to hit it off. After of weeks, I'm invited to meet the girlfriend and we seriously hit it off friendship wise. Then at some point during the conversations that night, she comes out with that she really isn't happy with the poly lifestyle but that she wants him to be happy and she doesn't want to lose him so she'll put up with it, he's a good man, she recognizes she can't meet all his needs, etc. I'm stunned and a little horrified. Not to mention uncomfortable when she makes a joke about as long as she stays primary, she won't have to come after me with a gun (not that she has one). I thought that they had been together for a while but no.
It made him feel bad. It made me feel bad. I would not want to cause her pain and I found myself being very protective of her but not sure what I was trying to protect her from. I tried to explain that to him and that we needed to work things out. He has other play partners - or at least one other. Since then it seems a bit stilted and there has been no other mention of us all getting together and socializing. Makes my heart ache.
He says we're still good.
Thoughts? Suggestions?
So I wrote out this long detailed story and it just made me cringe. Basically, I started dating a man who identifies as poly and we seemed to hit it off. After of weeks, I'm invited to meet the girlfriend and we seriously hit it off friendship wise. Then at some point during the conversations that night, she comes out with that she really isn't happy with the poly lifestyle but that she wants him to be happy and she doesn't want to lose him so she'll put up with it, he's a good man, she recognizes she can't meet all his needs, etc. I'm stunned and a little horrified. Not to mention uncomfortable when she makes a joke about as long as she stays primary, she won't have to come after me with a gun (not that she has one). I thought that they had been together for a while but no.
It made him feel bad. It made me feel bad. I would not want to cause her pain and I found myself being very protective of her but not sure what I was trying to protect her from. I tried to explain that to him and that we needed to work things out. He has other play partners - or at least one other. Since then it seems a bit stilted and there has been no other mention of us all getting together and socializing. Makes my heart ache.
He says we're still good.
Thoughts? Suggestions?