gothamknight
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So today is June 15, 2017.. and my non experienced poly amorous spouse is on, or has arrived in Las Vegas for will what will considered our wedding anniversary except its not with me its with her new boyfriend or lover if you will.
my spouse has always claimed that she has been polyamorous. according to her thats how our relationship began. i asked her when this topic was discussed. she couldnt remember, but i told her what i was doing. her being 34yrs. i had asked her when she first felt that she was poly-amorous? she said 16. so then i ask her did all your partners know and accepted? did you practice the lifestyle? couldn't give a decent response. then i asked what the three main factors to successfully maintain an open marriage/partner relationship? couldn't give me a definitive answer. i said to her that its time for spouses, trust, respect, communication, rules and boundaries and most important wedded spouses always come first before partners. varying on agreements made.
i myself have been in a past polys agreed union and it did not end well. i was embarrassed and humiliated and left to fend for myself. i learned allot during this time. what to do and what not to do. which led to a balanced dating life and i owe a tremendous amount of gratitude to this lifestyle. but i feel that she doesn't truly know the raw emotions involved. bottom line she steped out of our union and had an extramarital affair. once surfaced she used the lifestyle as a term rather than its true meaning. since no rules were ever established since topic never came up until recently when events started unfolding.
i seek advice. it has been double digit years since my last poly relations. how does one introduce another into this lifestyle.. i began due to being a sex enthusiast. all i ever wanted from my partners was companionship and sex. i got my companionship from you and with my comfort level over now.. its just gotta be sex. am i overthinking. it? any knowledge, tips or other is appreciated.
my spouse has always claimed that she has been polyamorous. according to her thats how our relationship began. i asked her when this topic was discussed. she couldnt remember, but i told her what i was doing. her being 34yrs. i had asked her when she first felt that she was poly-amorous? she said 16. so then i ask her did all your partners know and accepted? did you practice the lifestyle? couldn't give a decent response. then i asked what the three main factors to successfully maintain an open marriage/partner relationship? couldn't give me a definitive answer. i said to her that its time for spouses, trust, respect, communication, rules and boundaries and most important wedded spouses always come first before partners. varying on agreements made.
i myself have been in a past polys agreed union and it did not end well. i was embarrassed and humiliated and left to fend for myself. i learned allot during this time. what to do and what not to do. which led to a balanced dating life and i owe a tremendous amount of gratitude to this lifestyle. but i feel that she doesn't truly know the raw emotions involved. bottom line she steped out of our union and had an extramarital affair. once surfaced she used the lifestyle as a term rather than its true meaning. since no rules were ever established since topic never came up until recently when events started unfolding.
i seek advice. it has been double digit years since my last poly relations. how does one introduce another into this lifestyle.. i began due to being a sex enthusiast. all i ever wanted from my partners was companionship and sex. i got my companionship from you and with my comfort level over now.. its just gotta be sex. am i overthinking. it? any knowledge, tips or other is appreciated.