MsEmotional
Member
I am wondering what kinds of issues need to be considered when choosing to have children with multiple partners -- multiple partners with whom you are concurrently involved. Has anyone on here had children with one partner and then decided to have children with an additional partner later? What needs to be considered before making a choice like that? Do all partners parent all children? Or are there clear boundaries between the parental couples when it comes to their children? Does everyone live together? Does the hinge split their time between two homes? How do finances work? What is the relationship between the non-biological parent and their partner's other kids? Are they more like an aunt/uncle? Or more like a stepparent? How do you explain the situation to others?
Anyone been in this situation or know someone who has?
About why I am asking:
I am asking more in theory than anything else. This is not immediately applicable to my situation (thankfully!). I have a husband with whom I have 2 children and a boyfriend who does not have children, but might want some. Last week we had a little pregnancy scare and my boyfriend wasn't phased at all by the idea of fathering a child with me -- which was bizarre to me because all of the above questions were rolling through my brain in waves of panic! In any case, if someday we wanted to do this intentionally, I am wondering how it would work.
Anyone been in this situation or know someone who has?
About why I am asking:
I am asking more in theory than anything else. This is not immediately applicable to my situation (thankfully!). I have a husband with whom I have 2 children and a boyfriend who does not have children, but might want some. Last week we had a little pregnancy scare and my boyfriend wasn't phased at all by the idea of fathering a child with me -- which was bizarre to me because all of the above questions were rolling through my brain in waves of panic! In any case, if someday we wanted to do this intentionally, I am wondering how it would work.