It's a bit weird how quickly I've moved on from Jasmin in my mind. Maybe it was all the times she expressed insecurity about us that made me somewhat prepared for this, even though I didn't really want to believe it. I've been making plan B's for a long time. I can't even count the times when I said to a friend "If Jasmin and I break up, I'll..." But then again, that's me. I never trust that a relationship will be lifelong, that's so rare. So I always try to plan my life in a way that's not completely tied up to another person. In a way that can be good, it makes me less dependent on people. But it also makes me less vulnerable, less able to just leap into the unknown. Anyway, I think about Jasmin much less than I expected I would. It definitely helps that I asked for no contact for a month to help with the detachment. After that we can try building a friendship. We'll see how that goes.
Speaking of exes, I saw Hank at an event last weekend. We chatted for a bit and then the next day he sent me a message. He said that he would like to get back in touch if I was open to it. I was really surprised! I thought he pretty much hated me. I'm cautious, but willing to see how this goes. We've agreed to not hash out the past too much, at least in the beginning. Just talk about our current lives for now. He said that since it's been about a year now since things started to go south in the old house, he's had time to get some perspective and distance from all the bad stuff. He said he would like to achieve some sort of peace with me so that we could both heal and move on. That sounds like a lovely goal that I'm all for. It's also scary, the possibility of opening up old wounds. We'll see. I'm going in prepared for the worst (him blaming me for everything and making me feel like an evil person), but hoping for the best and giving him the benefit of the doubt.