MattMeadBrewer
New member
Hello everyone i am new here as well as fairly new to the lifestyle, but im having a slight problem. Ive always understood that consent was a big part of being poly, and i love sharing my girl who already has previous partners, however we got serious fast and are already dating and not just playmates. My problem arises in the fact that a few of her previous playmates are not okay with me being involved in their activities at all, and i feel like i need to be involved or i feel left out, unwanted, jelous, and hurt. I feel like if im not there and dont consent to sexual activities without me there then i am being cheated on, and not treated equally or fairly. Am i in the wrong here? I know we need to discuss thd situation further but i feel like if i dont give consent then it should not be happening. Am i an asshole here? Is there something im missing? Or is my viewpoint fair and reasonable. Thank you all for any help or even opinions you have to give, and dont hold anything back i need the truth not just what people think i want to hear, i really want to make this work but of consent is such a big part of poly and i do not consent, whats the next step? Again thank you all for any responses