Inyourendo
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5 years is actually fairly typical for turning a decent profit in a start-up. It happens quicker in some industries than others, but 5 years is typical. Also, to be fair, neither Portia or Lysander have actually stated that he isn't bringing in income. Playing devil's advocate, assuming that he is bringing income in, it may be a matter of mismatched desires financially. Portia may prefer more income for more creature comforts and greater wealth accumulation for the future than Lysander. Otherwise, I agree with everything Evie says...more time focused on having fun together, and more downtime for Portia can only help.
Maybe it would help if Portia thinks about self-care as her oxygen mask? Put yours on first (take care of yourself, do things that fill you back up) to ensure that you're capable of correctly putting your kids' on... In this case, it's up to Portia to take time out for self care. As Mom's, I think it's easy and natural to fall into the trap of taking care of everyone else and ignoring our own needs. And, yes, Lysander should be supportive of Portia's needs for self-care (by taking care of the kids, helping out at home, etc), but in the end, it falls on Portia to make sure that she makes herself a priority.
Yes...but I also think part of the problem may be that Lysander feels like Portia considers sex just another bullet point on her to do list.
So what? she can lay there every night on her back while he f**** her for 5 minutes that's not to make him any happier either. He should be making an effort to try to get her to want to have sex with him if he felt like she's only doing it to capitulate to his needs
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