NamesRHard
New member
Hi everyone,
I'm new to the site and the lifestyle. Ours isn't polamory really, we're just calling it opening up our marriage. So hopefully this is ok to post. Partially because we're not sure what to call it yet. So first some quick background. About a month ago my wife expressed wanting to open things up and we had talked in the past. So we agreed to move forward. She wants the excitement and adventure of sex with someone else. I could take it or leave it, it's exciting but I'm not dead set on it. For her it's practically a need right now, which is ok.
So I feel I should mention that we have a great marriage and she's the most trustworthy person I know. I have no fear of her lying to me. She's already had a one night stand and is now pursuing someone she'd like to be a friend with benefits. When she went and had sex with the first guy, I was kind of a mess. I was way more jealous than I thought I'd be. Logically I was fine with it, but my emotions went crazy. For the whole week after I couldn't shake images in my head or negative thoughts and feelings.
She on the other hand was amazing, she said she felt like she left it all there and only thought about how much she wanted me. After she got home we had sex and she said it was great, like she had a warm up and came home for the real thing.
Now that she's interested in this other guy I can feel some jealousy bubbling up because she's planning to sleep with him next time they meet. I don't want to feel this way, I want to be ok with it because I know she loves me and isn't going anywhere. She's literally just in it for the sex and adventure. She encourages me to do the same but I have a harder time meeting people.
Any tips for how I can not feel so anxious,jealous, and hurt while she's out and when she gets home. This turns her on and she loves the idea of coming home and having sex with me. I love it too, but I feel like I'm subconsciously sabotaging things.
I'm new to the site and the lifestyle. Ours isn't polamory really, we're just calling it opening up our marriage. So hopefully this is ok to post. Partially because we're not sure what to call it yet. So first some quick background. About a month ago my wife expressed wanting to open things up and we had talked in the past. So we agreed to move forward. She wants the excitement and adventure of sex with someone else. I could take it or leave it, it's exciting but I'm not dead set on it. For her it's practically a need right now, which is ok.
So I feel I should mention that we have a great marriage and she's the most trustworthy person I know. I have no fear of her lying to me. She's already had a one night stand and is now pursuing someone she'd like to be a friend with benefits. When she went and had sex with the first guy, I was kind of a mess. I was way more jealous than I thought I'd be. Logically I was fine with it, but my emotions went crazy. For the whole week after I couldn't shake images in my head or negative thoughts and feelings.
She on the other hand was amazing, she said she felt like she left it all there and only thought about how much she wanted me. After she got home we had sex and she said it was great, like she had a warm up and came home for the real thing.
Now that she's interested in this other guy I can feel some jealousy bubbling up because she's planning to sleep with him next time they meet. I don't want to feel this way, I want to be ok with it because I know she loves me and isn't going anywhere. She's literally just in it for the sex and adventure. She encourages me to do the same but I have a harder time meeting people.
Any tips for how I can not feel so anxious,jealous, and hurt while she's out and when she gets home. This turns her on and she loves the idea of coming home and having sex with me. I love it too, but I feel like I'm subconsciously sabotaging things.