A2Poly
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This. I don't consider myself poly. If the relationship fits, I'm equally happy in a mono or poly arrangement. OTOH, Blue is decidedly poly. Trying to be in a mono relationship doesn't/hasn't ever worked for him.
Yup, this for me too.
Mal identifies as poly. He told me a big part of what attracted him to Djinn at first was her attitude towards sex/multiple partners. I don't think he considered poly because she always wrote the rules. Once she said the rules included poly he had a "oh! This! This is how I'm supposed to be!" Moment and I don't think he can go back (even if we don't last, I think he'll end up with multiple romantic as well as sexual partners).
I don't. I handle it very well, I have jealousy (of course!) but rarely about who he loves, and more about how he spends his time if it means I get short changed, but it isn't a need for me. Poly has been a bumpy journey for me, and I doubt I'd go looking for another poly relationship if this with Mal doesn't last. That said, I wouldn't rule it out. I'm much, much better at 'relationshiping' than I was at the beginning of our relationship. I like the growth in myself that poly (and Mal) has helped me achieve.