libertinelover
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A couple of years ago I started writing a novel (half-way done!) which, among other things is a story of a love triangle that becomes a poly relationship. This was long before I had an open marriage. (It's actually freaky how much my life has followed my 'art'.)
I'd love to hear anyone's experiences that my novel raises: Is it possible to be passionately in love (NRE & all that) with two people at once, or does NRE (I hate that term by the way) make you too focused on one person for that to happen?
Not a question of if you can LOVE more than one person or if you can FALL in love with someone when you already have "true" love with another (ie. when the NRE is gone, but you still love them).
I can love multiple people in different ways, but I can't imagine falling in love with someone if already in love (honeymoon stage) with someone else. Ever happened to you or someone you know?
If you're in love with or love person A, when you fall in love with person B, does that effect your feelings for person A?
Sure we have limitless love, but do we have limitless capacity for NRE?
My novel in a nutshell:
Hal & Will are good mates who share a house. Anna moves in as flat-mate. She & Hal fall in love & have relationship which ends after some months due to reasons too complicated to give here. They still love each other. After some time Anna falls in love with Will (who has been in love with her all along) & they have a relationship. When Hal wants her back (now ready to commit) she is torn as she loves them both. Eventually after lots of drama they agree to 'share' and live as one big happy family.
I can't imagine falling in love with two people at the same time as I think it almost inevitable that one would capture your attention a bit more and then the more you become attracted to and fall for that person, the more focused you become on them.
Thanks in advance!
I'd love to hear anyone's experiences that my novel raises: Is it possible to be passionately in love (NRE & all that) with two people at once, or does NRE (I hate that term by the way) make you too focused on one person for that to happen?
Not a question of if you can LOVE more than one person or if you can FALL in love with someone when you already have "true" love with another (ie. when the NRE is gone, but you still love them).
I can love multiple people in different ways, but I can't imagine falling in love with someone if already in love (honeymoon stage) with someone else. Ever happened to you or someone you know?
If you're in love with or love person A, when you fall in love with person B, does that effect your feelings for person A?
Sure we have limitless love, but do we have limitless capacity for NRE?
My novel in a nutshell:
Hal & Will are good mates who share a house. Anna moves in as flat-mate. She & Hal fall in love & have relationship which ends after some months due to reasons too complicated to give here. They still love each other. After some time Anna falls in love with Will (who has been in love with her all along) & they have a relationship. When Hal wants her back (now ready to commit) she is torn as she loves them both. Eventually after lots of drama they agree to 'share' and live as one big happy family.
I can't imagine falling in love with two people at the same time as I think it almost inevitable that one would capture your attention a bit more and then the more you become attracted to and fall for that person, the more focused you become on them.
Thanks in advance!