I'm 39 years old. I have the best wife in the world ever, who is poly in concept and past practice but not active right now, and two gorgeous kids. I also have a girlfriend and I have some other great friends, all of whom I met before I was 30. My life is blessed.
But I'd love to find more people to love. It seems to me that the options are:
- Schmooze with people, which is great when by happenstance your business intersects theirs in 18 months time, but provides no intimacy whatsoever
- Enter the dating market, with all of that.
- Make friends at work (I also volunteer, but same difficulty). These days I'm some high powered executive type, I guess. Work is harsh and people respect me a lot, but it's hard to get to know people. And if I get to know junior people, it's hard to get past the power difference.
On the last of these, I met an amazing woman on a business trip some months ago, and ventured as far as saying that I am attracted to her. (Honestly, no power plays, no physical contact beyond hugging, no Harvey Weinstein.) It went poorly, including a corporate request that I no longer contact her.
What do you folk do? How do you make intimate friends after 30? It feels like the world is pretty cold and that people (myself included) put up walls to avoid intimacy, maybe.
FWIW, on the poly-swinging spectrum, I'm way up the intimacy end (c.f. the sex end).
Help?
Sentinel
But I'd love to find more people to love. It seems to me that the options are:
- Schmooze with people, which is great when by happenstance your business intersects theirs in 18 months time, but provides no intimacy whatsoever
- Enter the dating market, with all of that.
- Make friends at work (I also volunteer, but same difficulty). These days I'm some high powered executive type, I guess. Work is harsh and people respect me a lot, but it's hard to get to know people. And if I get to know junior people, it's hard to get past the power difference.
On the last of these, I met an amazing woman on a business trip some months ago, and ventured as far as saying that I am attracted to her. (Honestly, no power plays, no physical contact beyond hugging, no Harvey Weinstein.) It went poorly, including a corporate request that I no longer contact her.
What do you folk do? How do you make intimate friends after 30? It feels like the world is pretty cold and that people (myself included) put up walls to avoid intimacy, maybe.
FWIW, on the poly-swinging spectrum, I'm way up the intimacy end (c.f. the sex end).
Help?
Sentinel
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