Guilty
How much of an intersection is there between poly and BDSM? I know that this site doesn't want to focus on how we do it in the bedroom, or basement or... I'm new here and I don't want to breech etiquette, but how many here are in or have been in Dom/sub or Dom/sub/sub relationships?
Yes to Dom/sub and Dom/sub/sub and even a few Dom/sub/sub/sub/sub/sub
There was quite a bit of touchy-feely going on and lots of I love you's being thrown around and OMG I love THAT, do more of THAT!
So, you can put me down for one of the corners of that intersection.
Other folks here, as you have read by now I am sure, are not going down that road and if they see an intersection like that up ahead, they are taking a road less traveled, though I am sure they will say more traveled. They are the kind of people who go into AAA for a Triptik and say, and please make sure there are no intersections where poly crosses BDSM. I always ask to have as many of those intersections as possible, even if it requires I take a detour from the straight and narrow.
Whomever made the comment that homosexuality is an orientation at birth (only) is inaccurate. There are actually both biological homosexuals, and this orientation actually started at either two months after conception or four months after conception and is related to hormonal releases by the mother.
Environmental homosexuals have events in their lives where the choice to be homosexual is preferred to being either bisexual or heterosexual.
And example of this last is a guy who just wants a beer and a blowjob. He goes out into the dating market, gets bitch slapped by a bunch of women for asking for a blowjob and bringing her a Chardonnay instead of a Pinot Grigio
And he is crying into his beer next to another guy crying into his beer (often he brought the Pinot Grigio instead of the Chardonnay.) And they get talking about blowjobs and finally one guy says, "So what kind of beer do you like?"
If they are not too fussy about which brand of beer or whether it is in a can, bottle or on draft, they give each other blowjobs and then they get a bottle of Chardonnay and Pinot Grigio and try one, one guy says, "Christ this tastes like piss!" And the other guy says, "So, no golden showers?" (testing the waters) and the first guy says, "Hey, I didn't say anything about showers. I'm just not drinking anymore of this bottled piss!" And the second guy says, "Let's give these bottles to the lesbians next door."
The lesbians are very thankful, but when the door closes, they sort out the bottles because they handed the wrong bottle to the wrong girl, roll their eyes and one says, "Can you imagine having to drink beer!?!" And the other finishes with, "And give a blowjob!" And go find some glasses appropriate for white wine, which anyone educated in wine knows goes better with fish.
Totally environmental
These two types can be easily sorted. There are four general types of immune systems (broad brush folks, step back away from the canvas) and a woman who is heterosexual smelling these four different men' shirts will say, "These three sink, but this one smells very sexy. What kind of beer does he like?"
A heterosexual man will think they all stink and yes, too often will suggest to the girl in the room, she needs to wash them.
The biological homosexual will think one of them smells divine. He will also be able to tell which kind of beer the guy likes. Occasionally, he will turn the the girl researcher and in a catty voice says, "I suppose YOU drink Chardonnay!"
If she is really smart, she'll smile and say, "Chardonnay or Pinot, hell I'd even drink a Pouilly-Fuissé. Where did you get those shoes? They are lovely." Because she knows he probably has a boyfriend who put his cashmere sweater in the dryer and it will fit her like it was knitted for her. She might venture a, "Do you like sushi?" And if he sniffs and arches one brow and says, "Are we speaking literally or metaphorically?" She'll laugh and say, "Let me get my bag. I heard they are having a sale a Bergdorf's."