my bi husband
i have to say, that i have actively encouraged my bisexual husband to pursue relationships and experimentation with other men, but he is more hesitant to do it. this could be due to a couple of things- he is more mono-minded than i am, he was sexually abused by a man in the military, he has some medical issues that he's focusing on, etc... but i have the feeling that he just doesn't have the urge to be with anyone other than me, although he's open to it. but, i haven't really actively encouraged him to pursue a relationship with another woman, although it probably wouldn't bother me too much (depends on the woman, just like it would depend on the man.)
now me, i do actively want a relationship with another woman, and am open to a relationship with another man (although it's not a need of mine). and my husband is a little more insecure- we've had a lot of talks about why this is a need of mine, what i'm not getting out of our current relationship (his thinking, not mine), etc... at first, he was adamantly against my being with another man, and only hesitantly ok with my being with another woman, but now it seems that gender doesn't matter as much as trust and mutual compatibility (even if it's as friends). it's not that i'm unsatisfied, it's that i just feel restricted, and that there could be so much more. it's not a matter of filling an empty hole, but of adding to what i already have. (anyway that's a little tangent)
so, in closing, gender used to matter to my husband more than it matters now, and it doesn't really matter to me.
i have to say, that i have actively encouraged my bisexual husband to pursue relationships and experimentation with other men, but he is more hesitant to do it. this could be due to a couple of things- he is more mono-minded than i am, he was sexually abused by a man in the military, he has some medical issues that he's focusing on, etc... but i have the feeling that he just doesn't have the urge to be with anyone other than me, although he's open to it. but, i haven't really actively encouraged him to pursue a relationship with another woman, although it probably wouldn't bother me too much (depends on the woman, just like it would depend on the man.)
now me, i do actively want a relationship with another woman, and am open to a relationship with another man (although it's not a need of mine). and my husband is a little more insecure- we've had a lot of talks about why this is a need of mine, what i'm not getting out of our current relationship (his thinking, not mine), etc... at first, he was adamantly against my being with another man, and only hesitantly ok with my being with another woman, but now it seems that gender doesn't matter as much as trust and mutual compatibility (even if it's as friends). it's not that i'm unsatisfied, it's that i just feel restricted, and that there could be so much more. it's not a matter of filling an empty hole, but of adding to what i already have. (anyway that's a little tangent)
so, in closing, gender used to matter to my husband more than it matters now, and it doesn't really matter to me.