Sweetpea
New member
I guess this is kinda an introduction and a cry for help kind of letter.. Lets see where to start...
When I first met my husband of 7 years (10 years ago) I already knew that I was a non-monagomous person. He has always been supportive of me and my freedom. We have a great relationship, a kid, a business together and he is one of my best friends. He is a freedom oriented highly emotionally intelligent person, but he is not interested in other lovers.
Over the years we have been together I have had lovers but nothing ever more than friends who like benefits. NO one has been able to even hold a candle to my husband. That is until about three weeks ago. I met someone who within just a few days I felt like I was being reawakened and dare I say in love. Not one time in my life have I fell in love at first sight. That is not my experience at all. But I think that may be what happened with this person. We both opened and shared so much it was pretty amazing on many levels.
He made some promises to me and we spoke in depth about poly relationships and seeing each other again... Then upon our return to our home (7 hours away from each other) the communication has been horrible. I am feeling pretty hurt and even crazy. Trying not to obsess (that is the one rule my husband has asked of me). We have spoken a few times, but he really has spent most of the time ignoring me. I sent him a letter in the mail (old school I know), but until I actually can have another conversation its pretty difficult to know whats going on. We have a mutual friend which is how we met and I have thought about talking to him..But not sure yet... Any advise?
When I first met my husband of 7 years (10 years ago) I already knew that I was a non-monagomous person. He has always been supportive of me and my freedom. We have a great relationship, a kid, a business together and he is one of my best friends. He is a freedom oriented highly emotionally intelligent person, but he is not interested in other lovers.
Over the years we have been together I have had lovers but nothing ever more than friends who like benefits. NO one has been able to even hold a candle to my husband. That is until about three weeks ago. I met someone who within just a few days I felt like I was being reawakened and dare I say in love. Not one time in my life have I fell in love at first sight. That is not my experience at all. But I think that may be what happened with this person. We both opened and shared so much it was pretty amazing on many levels.
He made some promises to me and we spoke in depth about poly relationships and seeing each other again... Then upon our return to our home (7 hours away from each other) the communication has been horrible. I am feeling pretty hurt and even crazy. Trying not to obsess (that is the one rule my husband has asked of me). We have spoken a few times, but he really has spent most of the time ignoring me. I sent him a letter in the mail (old school I know), but until I actually can have another conversation its pretty difficult to know whats going on. We have a mutual friend which is how we met and I have thought about talking to him..But not sure yet... Any advise?