nycindie
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Thanks for sharing your story. I did bring up the vasectomy option last night and this morning. It's going to take a lot of convincing, if I really want to push for it. His reasons are similar to your ex-h. We are not fanatics, but we try to maintain a natural balance. We rarely take medicine or seek any medical treatment considered optional. In addition, he is worried about impacts it could have on his drive, stamina, etc. He doesn't care that those side effects are rare, it's too big of a risk for him. Lastly, he does have a bit of an inferiority complex. I think the ability to make babies is tied to his masculinity. He constantly worries that his dick is not big enough. He asked me "do you want to make my already small cock weaker? "
Although his reasons are based in fear rather than fact, I have to respect that. Unless I see a sprout coming from the vasectomy seed I planted, I am not gong to bring it up again. Which leads me back to thinking I just need to make a leap of faith.
He's being rather obtuse, isn't he? Why would he think that sperm not flowing into his semen would effect his sex drive and stamina? These are myths promoted by ignorant people and he is basing his fears on incorrect assumptions instead of the facts.
He will still ejaculate after a vasectomy, there just would be no sperm in it. Sperm make up only 2 to 5 per cent of the ejaculate so he would not even notice any difference in the volume of semen. About two months after the procedure (or 15-20 ejaculations), they test for sperm count to make sure that it has all been flushed out, and eventually sperm production slows way down - but he will still cum! And sex drive has to do with hormones, not sperm count. There is no evidence that vasectomy decreases testosterone levels or sex drive.
You don't have to avoid a topic and kowtow to his fears just because he's uneasy about it - you know? If we all lived that way, nothing practical would ever get done in this world and common sense would go the way of the dodo bird.
I think you might want to show him this thread and even invite him to participate, so you can find a solution.
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