Dodge
New member
Hello Folks,
So I would like to talk to my husband, who is very monogamous, about testing the waters of a poly- style relationship. We have talked about and discussed three-somes before so he may be a bit more open minded than I think.
What I would like, is an extra-marital relationship which didn't involve sex. Hand holding, sharing secrets, some kissing, fun activities and general intimacy, but I can't imagine having sex outside of our marriage at this point.
For a bit of back ground info, my husband and I are VERY different people...
Me
Enjoys walking our dog/ biking/ kayaking
Am vegan
Environmentally minded
Mild Extrovert
Enjoys adventure and trying new things
Enjoys traveling
My Husband
Likes to play video games
Lives on Bread, meat, and cheese
Doesn't really care about being "eco-friendly"
Intense Introvert
Get very anxious about trying new things
Enjoys Staying home
So as you can see, our basic interests do not overlap at all. We started dating when I was 15, and we have both changed a lot. This is part of the reason I am interested in a poly relationship. A poly relationship (I envision) would also give me a greater sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. I like variety.
Which bring me to my question.....how would you personally go about starting the discussion?
Sincerely,
Dodge
So I would like to talk to my husband, who is very monogamous, about testing the waters of a poly- style relationship. We have talked about and discussed three-somes before so he may be a bit more open minded than I think.
What I would like, is an extra-marital relationship which didn't involve sex. Hand holding, sharing secrets, some kissing, fun activities and general intimacy, but I can't imagine having sex outside of our marriage at this point.
For a bit of back ground info, my husband and I are VERY different people...
Me
Enjoys walking our dog/ biking/ kayaking
Am vegan
Environmentally minded
Mild Extrovert
Enjoys adventure and trying new things
Enjoys traveling
My Husband
Likes to play video games
Lives on Bread, meat, and cheese
Doesn't really care about being "eco-friendly"
Intense Introvert
Get very anxious about trying new things
Enjoys Staying home
So as you can see, our basic interests do not overlap at all. We started dating when I was 15, and we have both changed a lot. This is part of the reason I am interested in a poly relationship. A poly relationship (I envision) would also give me a greater sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. I like variety.
Which bring me to my question.....how would you personally go about starting the discussion?
Sincerely,
Dodge
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