Oh man, NRE is so much a thing, y'all. For real. I love it.
So how was the date and the guys meeting, you ask? Fabulous!
Echo came over around 8:45 on Tues. I know, kinda late to start a date, but he wanted to help get his kids to bed, so I was ok with a shorter date night, especially since Sudo was going to have to process the feels of me having a new person over. So he arrived and pretty much got introduced to Sudo right off the bat as I was walking him through the house on a tour. So the tour stopped dead and we ended up standing around in the kitchen chit-chatting, all 3 of us. Echo got on the subject of working in the beer industry and that he'd brought over 3 sours for me to try, so he suggested that Sudo join in and he sorta offered us our own private tasting where he talked about the differences, what makes them sour, details about the particular beer, and poured them in the order of what he thought I would like least to most! Between that and then getting a chance to hear the guys nerd out and talk to each other about tech stuff and programming and nonsense, we were all talking for like 1.5 hours!
I was SOOOOO happy that Sudo was talkative, not overly shy, seemed like he felt comfortable. It was wonderful! And I've now come to see that Echo is obviously an extrovert, so of course he did totally fine carrying himself and not feeling weird at all. So it got late enough that I went ahead and took Echo around the rest of the house to finish off the tour and we ended in the basement, which historically has been our date privacy space anyway since it's finished with a couch, TV, bed, and all the things but also has a closed door. During the tour Scott has just sort of.... disappeared on his own and I guess went into the office to work. So it ended up being a not awkward transition at all for us to just stay in the basement and enjoy some alone time. That alone time included us having sex for the first time. And it was great! Granted, I didn't orgasm, but that didn't really have anything to do with him, and was more that when I'm with someone new, I often get in my own head and it just doesn't happen, even if I'm having fun. We don't have any sort of negotiated formal D/s dynamic yet, but he did a wonderfully fun job of taking charge anyway. It felt awesome, and at the same time, it wasn't triggering any weird feels about Mr. Hyde, which was something I've definitely been worried about.
So we fucked, cuddled, fucked, and cuddled. Yum. Of course, we got started so late that we hit a point where we knew it was late and went from cuddling for a bit to him putting his clothes on and bouncing soon after. But I think he was maybe just trying to be overly respectful of the fact that I'd said I would turn into a pumpkin at midnight.
Turns out, his wife had someone over and their date ran WAY long and he was stuck chilling in their apartment building lounge until 3am
So that was something we talked about the next day, in that while, yes, I tend to like to get to bed by about midnight, if things come up and he would like to be out of the house later, we can work it out. Even if that means I just need to be able to fall asleep snuggling with him and he leaves later. But the whole time we were cuddling between and after sex, he was saying I was gorgeous, and sexy, and he liked me, and all the great things.
So we're still talking every day, and he proactively asks about and plans dates so we've already agreed to see each other on Monday, and he and his wife are hopefully going to come to a group poly movie night next Sat that we are hosting for a bunch of people, etc. Basically, we are both into each other, and the more we talk, the more we can both see so much in common that we can definitely see some lasting potential there. *Squee*!!!
Ahem, but enough about that. Work has been bat-shit with me trying to finish up one program and start up on another. Sudo has also been prepping for work stuff. Tonight, we have tickets to the Hump Film Festival. Technically they're doing a best-of tour, so it's not the usual annual festival. But we have several friends going so it should be a fun, funny, sexy time!
Speaking of Sudo, he definitely did have some feels to process at the end of my date night when I said that yes, during our alone time we had, in fact, had sex. But he seems to be doing fine now. It's just change, which takes time for him. And I think it gets him thinking about all the time that he's going to be spending on travel and away from me later this month. But he's also been trying to be very good about saying that he's happy for me and glad I had a good date, etc. So I can see that he's trying. And I do love that he's trying. I do wish that compersion came a bit more naturally for him, but mostly just because I hate to see him hurt, and because I wish he felt more confident in himself and had higher self esteem. But we'll get there. He is amazing and deserves all the good things in life!
Ok, gotta run.