Sex and Sexting in a LDR
The downside of a LDR... I've really been missing sex and touch lately.
So much so that I've spent a little time this week pondering/fantasising ("sandboxing") about the possibility of finding myself a casual FWB, someone local, even though the deal with Jester, Boho and I is that we intend to remain closed for the foreseeable future.
I didn't get into all this with either of them, as I know I was just allowing myself to mentally run with the notion a little while... although I did touch on the subject with my adult daughter and another friend.
Thing is, I know Jester would not have a problem with it in the slightest, and even Boho has said (in the past) that she would deal with it IF such a thing ever came to pass, but I know I'D be somewhat less cool about it if it were either of them taking on another lover, and frankly, our group dynamic has FINALLY gotten to a point of stability, peace and happy anticipation re: future planning, that I'd be really loath to mess that up.
Anyway... I was glad and grateful to enjoy a lengthy and very intimate sexting session with Boho a couple of days ago. It was thoroughly fulfilling, even given the physical distance between us. The woman sure has a way with words! Visuals weren't even necessary. Seriously, I cannot wait to see her in person in a few weeks and I know she is equally as excited. Touch is most definitely Boho's favoured Love Language, and I intend to satisfy her every need in that regard.
Jester has been kinda slacking in regard to showing interest in anything sexual, and I finally felt I needed to say something about it after my encounter with Boho. As enjoyable and fulfilling as that was, I NEED to feel Jester also desires me, as I do him. To his credit, he promised we'd do something about it... and today, I ambushed him earlier than expected in our group chat... and was pleased (and slightly surprised) that he was ready and "up" for it within seconds.
I decided to go there in the 3-way group chat just to be a little tease at first, and because I thought either one, or the other, or both, might find it fun and get some enjoyment out of my multi-media antics. Boho is usually the more forthcoming, sexually, especially if things are more spontaneous... but this time, real-life intervened and she was forced to play the role of voyeur more than participant. I don't think she really minded though... and afterwards I made sure she was taken care of and knew she was loved, wanted and cherished.
P.S. Long distance is HARD (teehee). Luckily we three are quite imaginative, creative folk.
The downside of a LDR... I've really been missing sex and touch lately.
So much so that I've spent a little time this week pondering/fantasising ("sandboxing") about the possibility of finding myself a casual FWB, someone local, even though the deal with Jester, Boho and I is that we intend to remain closed for the foreseeable future.
I didn't get into all this with either of them, as I know I was just allowing myself to mentally run with the notion a little while... although I did touch on the subject with my adult daughter and another friend.
Thing is, I know Jester would not have a problem with it in the slightest, and even Boho has said (in the past) that she would deal with it IF such a thing ever came to pass, but I know I'D be somewhat less cool about it if it were either of them taking on another lover, and frankly, our group dynamic has FINALLY gotten to a point of stability, peace and happy anticipation re: future planning, that I'd be really loath to mess that up.
Anyway... I was glad and grateful to enjoy a lengthy and very intimate sexting session with Boho a couple of days ago. It was thoroughly fulfilling, even given the physical distance between us. The woman sure has a way with words! Visuals weren't even necessary. Seriously, I cannot wait to see her in person in a few weeks and I know she is equally as excited. Touch is most definitely Boho's favoured Love Language, and I intend to satisfy her every need in that regard.
Jester has been kinda slacking in regard to showing interest in anything sexual, and I finally felt I needed to say something about it after my encounter with Boho. As enjoyable and fulfilling as that was, I NEED to feel Jester also desires me, as I do him. To his credit, he promised we'd do something about it... and today, I ambushed him earlier than expected in our group chat... and was pleased (and slightly surprised) that he was ready and "up" for it within seconds.
I decided to go there in the 3-way group chat just to be a little tease at first, and because I thought either one, or the other, or both, might find it fun and get some enjoyment out of my multi-media antics. Boho is usually the more forthcoming, sexually, especially if things are more spontaneous... but this time, real-life intervened and she was forced to play the role of voyeur more than participant. I don't think she really minded though... and afterwards I made sure she was taken care of and knew she was loved, wanted and cherished.
P.S. Long distance is HARD (teehee). Luckily we three are quite imaginative, creative folk.