Tinkerbell87
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M husband and I have recently decided to venture in to the poly lifestyle. We are trying not to let a lot of people know because do not want it to effect our children or my future (husband is oilfield so it wouldn't effect his job. I will be starting school next fall to be a teacher). Anyway to the point....
The few friends we have told assume that it was all my idea and my husband agreed to it just to make me happy,. This is not true at all. He is the one who first brought up the idea of an open marriage. After lots of research I wanted poly because of the emotional factor, rather than just sex. The assumptions of others shouldn't bother me, but it does. It makes me feel like everyone is judging me and he is just the loving husband trying to keep me happy. When we tell them this is far from the truth they do not believe us. I knew when people found out not everyone would be supportive but it makes me feel like a bad person who is incapable of just being with my husband. I could just be with him, we have been monogamous for 10 years, but both of us prefer the new relationship more (at least for now).
I don't know if I even had a question or anything. I just need advice on not letting people's opinions get to me so much. It just feels like most things in society, the man is perfect and the woman is to blame for anything and everything.
The few friends we have told assume that it was all my idea and my husband agreed to it just to make me happy,. This is not true at all. He is the one who first brought up the idea of an open marriage. After lots of research I wanted poly because of the emotional factor, rather than just sex. The assumptions of others shouldn't bother me, but it does. It makes me feel like everyone is judging me and he is just the loving husband trying to keep me happy. When we tell them this is far from the truth they do not believe us. I knew when people found out not everyone would be supportive but it makes me feel like a bad person who is incapable of just being with my husband. I could just be with him, we have been monogamous for 10 years, but both of us prefer the new relationship more (at least for now).
I don't know if I even had a question or anything. I just need advice on not letting people's opinions get to me so much. It just feels like most things in society, the man is perfect and the woman is to blame for anything and everything.