I'm new to poly, having entered into a relationship with a poly man. While this is something I wouldn't mind exploring for myself, I am demisexual, and as such, cannot experience sexual attraction without a deep emotional bond with someone.
I've been told by my partner that it will not be unusual if some of the people in his circle end up hitting on me/making advances. I don't want to come off as "oh, no, I'm not interested in YOU," and cause hurt feelings, nor do I want them to assume I'm mono because I currently have no other partners and am not actively seeking any.
What's the best way you can think of to deal with this if/when it comes up? His friends/the people in his poly circle are new people in my life and it could be months or years before I feel close enough to any of them to feel sexual attraction. I get the feeling the "you're hot, want to go out sometime?" mentality is strong, and I don't want to offend, but the answer is probably going to be, "no, thank you" for a long time.
I've been told by my partner that it will not be unusual if some of the people in his circle end up hitting on me/making advances. I don't want to come off as "oh, no, I'm not interested in YOU," and cause hurt feelings, nor do I want them to assume I'm mono because I currently have no other partners and am not actively seeking any.
What's the best way you can think of to deal with this if/when it comes up? His friends/the people in his poly circle are new people in my life and it could be months or years before I feel close enough to any of them to feel sexual attraction. I get the feeling the "you're hot, want to go out sometime?" mentality is strong, and I don't want to offend, but the answer is probably going to be, "no, thank you" for a long time.