anamikanon
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Discovered something interesting about myself. I get these occasional fits of wishing for a partner I could spend more time with. These are passing whims that aren't really strong enough for me to overcome my domestic limitations (dependents - always at home) or aversion for casual socializing to do something about it. They are also quite fleeting.
I've realized I land up here at such times. Participate on a lot of threads. Which is how my participation here is in intense spurts. Come, interact a lot, vanish.
Today I realized what is going on. I have a very stable relationship with Spexy at the moment and given the knowledge and acceptance of our families on both sides, it sometimes feels.... monogamous and I get bouts of cabin fever on principle, even though I don't really feel the need for another relationship.
I think being here and talking about polyamory sort of asserts that while we are together and currently not involved with anyone else, it is NOT monogamy
Then I feel better.
Background: Spexy and I are in an LDR and he visits once a month for anything between 4 and 9 days, deoending on getting leave from work, etc. Flying can get expensive and rack up the bills rapidly, so he can't really come over every weekend and such. He is polyfriendly and our relationship is known to both our families, though his parents seem to be expecting an eventual traditional marriage. My being poly by nature is no secret from anyone. Though it being mostly a view rather than practice at this point means that my family hasn't really come face to face with the reality of it.
I've realized I land up here at such times. Participate on a lot of threads. Which is how my participation here is in intense spurts. Come, interact a lot, vanish.
Today I realized what is going on. I have a very stable relationship with Spexy at the moment and given the knowledge and acceptance of our families on both sides, it sometimes feels.... monogamous and I get bouts of cabin fever on principle, even though I don't really feel the need for another relationship.
I think being here and talking about polyamory sort of asserts that while we are together and currently not involved with anyone else, it is NOT monogamy
Then I feel better.
Background: Spexy and I are in an LDR and he visits once a month for anything between 4 and 9 days, deoending on getting leave from work, etc. Flying can get expensive and rack up the bills rapidly, so he can't really come over every weekend and such. He is polyfriendly and our relationship is known to both our families, though his parents seem to be expecting an eventual traditional marriage. My being poly by nature is no secret from anyone. Though it being mostly a view rather than practice at this point means that my family hasn't really come face to face with the reality of it.
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