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Old 07-28-2017, 06:54 PM
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So - maybe it would be interesting and amusing to share some of our more memorable poly moments - perhaps the humorous as well as the epiphanies.
Maybe the sentimental and heartwarming - Or... you know your poly if........

The first one that sprung to mind for me was a night that my wife and I were on vacation. She had fallen asleep - while I was still up reading - when she suddenly sat up in bed, and starting calling out her boyfriend's name and telling him to come back to bed. While it was mildly disturbing, I actually found it quite amusing --- you know your poly if.... (I am grateful that our young daughter, asleep in the other bed in the motel room, did not wake up!)

Other moments out there? Al
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Old 07-28-2017, 08:20 PM
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You know you're poly if ...

... if there's confusion over who should open the car door for her.
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Old 08-01-2017, 02:27 PM
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You know you're poly when...

...someone calls out "honey" and everyone in the room turns around.

As a parent, I liken this to being at a school function, hearing some child plaintively wail, "muuuum!" and seeing two dozen heads all snap up at the same time and scan the room, thinking it was their child.

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Old 08-01-2017, 02:36 PM
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Good choice of topic though, Al.

I can think of many, many memorable poly moments - and I've only been in a non-monogamous relationship by choice for the past year or so.

I guess one heartwarming story involves the time my LD male partner sent me a present - a gorgeous and meaningful item of jewellery to be exact - which was a rare and lovely thing to happen, as it wasn't expected or for any occasion in particular.

But although heartwarming in itself, the polyamorous part of this story is that I then noticed there was another item of jewellery in the box. Due to the nature of the thing, I knew it was meant to be one of a pair... but though I looked and looked, shook the box, searched the ground around me, I couldn't see the other half anywhere!

My stomach sank, as I thought about how to tell my partner I'd lost part of his present, or it had somehow disappeared in transit... but when I tentatively mentioned receiving his gift, he then surprised the hell out of me by telling me that I'd only gotten one half of the set on purpose - he had sent the OTHER one to my OSO, so that she and I have a matched set between Us. (My girlfriend is his metamour, essentially, so that was a really sweet gesture.)
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Old 08-02-2017, 01:05 AM
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You know you're poly when...

...you cringe when thinking about monogamy.
...you find that the song Two Ladies (from Cabaret) describes your ideal relationship.
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Old 11-04-2017, 09:04 PM
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You know you're poly when...

...someone calls out "honey" and everyone in the room turns around.
Or the inverse when the hinge calls out the universal pet name, and no one looks up because everyone assumes he is talking to the other person.
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I love this thread. This is still very new to us as a couple, and we keep running across these moments constantly. Some of my "you know you are poly when" moments in the last month have been:

-Showing my wife the best secluded places to park near her workplace, knowing she was not planning on parking there with me.

-My wife asking me if I could run home on my lunch break and bring her back her favorite clitoral stimulating gel, because she had a date immediately after work. (And trying to find something non-descript but plausible to hide said gel in so I could deliver it without her coworkers asking questions).

Of course, this works both directions. And while not directly polyamorous, we were at a party with a group of very free spirited polyamorous friends. Apparently my wife extolled my skill at cunnilingus to an attractive young lady and the next thing I knew I was taken by the hand and led off while my wife laughed and made shooing motions. Best wingman ever.
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Old 11-13-2017, 02:43 PM
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You know you're poly when...
You spend the afternoon making fancy chili (beef short rib AND chorizo! toasted whole chili peppers!) that you don't even plan on eating until the next day because your partner is having his other partner stay over while you go out (and handling childcare for the evening).

Bonus: I get extra-tasty leftover chili without having to eat the same thing 2 days in a row. (Next day chili tastes better, I dislike leftovers. It's a conundrum.)
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Old 11-26-2017, 04:38 AM
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You know you may be poly when -- while relaxing with your wife on the couch, discussing her plans to see her ldr bf next week, your ldr girlfriend texts you that she and her husband are busy preparing an after Thanksgiving dinner for a group of friends - and she is excited because her local male love interest and her local female love interest are both planning on being there.
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