Ravenscroft
Banned
In Men in Groups, Lionel Tiger used the term "homosexual" to refer to groupings that consist of one gender -- such as most sports organizations.
For years, I've wondered how it is that many men seem to have very close "buddy" relationships with other males, yet no female friends worth the term. To me, this seems as though it requires a perpetuation of groupthink, & maintains a gulf between the genders.
It's not much of a stretch to say that straight men are free to form lasting love relationships (albeit nonsexual) with other men, but are barred from any emotional closeness to women, with the possible exception of wife/girlfriend & Mom.
I've heard that (as Sheff alludes to) "the gay community" isn't particularly interested in forming deep bonds with other men, & sees sex as a pastime, an itch to be scratched then forgotten. Most of the gay men I've known, though, are affectionate without endlessly chasing after sex; no guess as to WHY but I'll admit to my bias.
IME, men spend too much time & effort jockeying for dominance & superiority; it's refreshing to hang out with guys who are secure enough that at most they play these games for amusement. While not an overwhelming majority, most of my close friendships have been with women.
For years, I've wondered how it is that many men seem to have very close "buddy" relationships with other males, yet no female friends worth the term. To me, this seems as though it requires a perpetuation of groupthink, & maintains a gulf between the genders.
It's not much of a stretch to say that straight men are free to form lasting love relationships (albeit nonsexual) with other men, but are barred from any emotional closeness to women, with the possible exception of wife/girlfriend & Mom.
I've heard that (as Sheff alludes to) "the gay community" isn't particularly interested in forming deep bonds with other men, & sees sex as a pastime, an itch to be scratched then forgotten. Most of the gay men I've known, though, are affectionate without endlessly chasing after sex; no guess as to WHY but I'll admit to my bias.
IME, men spend too much time & effort jockeying for dominance & superiority; it's refreshing to hang out with guys who are secure enough that at most they play these games for amusement. While not an overwhelming majority, most of my close friendships have been with women.