Bunnielight
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My husband and I became poly about 6 months ago. It's been an interesting journey.
In short, Pixie and Dean was the first couple we talked to there in the very beginning. Over the course of 4 weeks we were all advancing a relationship up until people felt too much pressure and our friendships collapsed.
Pixie and Dean then did not talk to us for about 4 months.
After some time, they came back around and wanted to repair things. They've been quite humble and appreciative ever since. Pixie and Zed hit it off again and they became official last week.
Around the same time is when I started easing up on Dean and allowing him to be my friend again. *see my blog for more details*
After several times of seeing each other and hanging out in the same group and such, he started again expressing appreciation for me and then Friday dropped the "So I feel like I messed up something really good..." and has now asked me over for a movie night.
Here's where things get kind of sticky....
For about 2 months now, I have been talking to a good friend of Zeds that lives out of town, Cuba (in my home town and still close enough). Someone I have been drawn to for a very long time and things are progressing as they should. Right now he and I have a FWB agreement while we figure out how we feel and see where this goes.
Personally, I am hugely emotionally invested. My priority, however, is to see him happy. He is a wonderful human being with huge integrity and unbreakable loyalty. I absolutely adore this man. I just don't know that he wants anything more than FWB (hoping to discuss this when I see him next week)
And now Dean is expressing interest again.
Zed believes I should give him a fair chance. We never actually had one before, but he had already been somewhat dishonest and misleading even then which is what has turned me off of the whole situation. This whole things is bringing up past feelings, but I'm realizing that I have significant more feelings for Cuba than I ever did Dean. But Zed still doesn't believe that my out of town thing should affect me having something here closer.
My friends, on the other hand, feel differently. They think he is being pushy on something that should be natural. That I obviously have something going on that he has taken no interest in.
I might add to this later, I have to work. I just need advice here. Dean is going to be around and it seems his emotions on this may be a little fragile. :/
In short, Pixie and Dean was the first couple we talked to there in the very beginning. Over the course of 4 weeks we were all advancing a relationship up until people felt too much pressure and our friendships collapsed.
Pixie and Dean then did not talk to us for about 4 months.
After some time, they came back around and wanted to repair things. They've been quite humble and appreciative ever since. Pixie and Zed hit it off again and they became official last week.
Around the same time is when I started easing up on Dean and allowing him to be my friend again. *see my blog for more details*
After several times of seeing each other and hanging out in the same group and such, he started again expressing appreciation for me and then Friday dropped the "So I feel like I messed up something really good..." and has now asked me over for a movie night.
Here's where things get kind of sticky....
For about 2 months now, I have been talking to a good friend of Zeds that lives out of town, Cuba (in my home town and still close enough). Someone I have been drawn to for a very long time and things are progressing as they should. Right now he and I have a FWB agreement while we figure out how we feel and see where this goes.
Personally, I am hugely emotionally invested. My priority, however, is to see him happy. He is a wonderful human being with huge integrity and unbreakable loyalty. I absolutely adore this man. I just don't know that he wants anything more than FWB (hoping to discuss this when I see him next week)
And now Dean is expressing interest again.
Zed believes I should give him a fair chance. We never actually had one before, but he had already been somewhat dishonest and misleading even then which is what has turned me off of the whole situation. This whole things is bringing up past feelings, but I'm realizing that I have significant more feelings for Cuba than I ever did Dean. But Zed still doesn't believe that my out of town thing should affect me having something here closer.
My friends, on the other hand, feel differently. They think he is being pushy on something that should be natural. That I obviously have something going on that he has taken no interest in.
I might add to this later, I have to work. I just need advice here. Dean is going to be around and it seems his emotions on this may be a little fragile. :/