Narball
New member
Hello there. I've been with my fiance, Dani, for 3 years now, we've got plans to get married, probably next year sometime. I'll admit that our relationship has been rocky as of late, largely because of her debilitating chronic illness (Rheumatoid Arthritis) and our perpetual financial wreckage that we're in... I am working full time during the week, serving in the army reserves one weekend a month, and donating plasma for money twice a week, as well as selling whatever random stuff we have that has any value, to try to keep everything together and it's very difficult and stressful. Anyway, that's some background... We met Rae (girlfriend) about two months ago when we had started exploring the idea of swinging... shortly after that we ended up dating her and then entering the triad relationship and decided swinging wasn't really what we were looking for. What bothers me and is a problem that we're having... Dani is feeling insecure and doesn't want Rae and I to spend any time alone together. Rae and I both feel like that's not really fair, because I work 9 hours a day from Monday through Friday and Dani is spending all that time alone with Rae, and has informed me that they do spend a lot of that time alone together having sex. It just seems a little... skewed. I don't know how to push the issue without freaking her out... I'm not going to leave her for Rae, we're not running away together and leaving her behind. We both love Dani too. But my relationship with Rae is going to end up strained if we don't get to spend some time together... I don't know how to deal with it. Dani starts therapy next Tuesday and I start therapy next Thursday, Rae is actively seeking employment and also has insurance so will likely be trying to get into a therapist herself soon. I'm going to talk to my therapist about the possibility of us having group sessions as well. Thanks for any advice you might have.
--Nate
--Nate