Metamour departure etiquette

My metamour stayed over last night and at the morning departure I said my goodbyes then went to the kitchen to busy myself for several minutes as they said goodbye at the front door offering a little privacy. I could hear only whispers and giggles. It doesn't bother me in the least how they say goodbye and I enjoy the giggles even if I can't participate in them. I wondered what you do when your SO and their SO depart and you happen to be present. Is it comfortable for you? Do you stay until they depart? Leave for privacy? Don't think about it at all? Other?
 
My metamour stayed over last night and at the morning departure I said my goodbyes then went to the kitchen to busy myself for several minutes as they said goodbye at the front door offering a little privacy. I could hear only whispers and giggles. It doesn't bother me in the least how they say goodbye and I enjoy the giggles even if I can't participate in them. I wondered what you do when your SO and their SO depart and you happen to be present. Is it comfortable for you? Do you stay until they depart? Leave for privacy? Don't think about it at all? Other?

Not been in this situation, so no idea, but I think your post is just adorable.
 
I've never had anyone spend the night. Usually I am showing up as the meta is leaving. I just say my hellos and go on in to the living room to give them some privacy. I would expect the same courtesy.
 
I don't think about it much and just do as each individual situation seems to call for.
 
I tend to go to the other room, like excuse myself to the toilet, if its not possible to go to another room I might stand to one side and look at my phone and pretend something is very important there :D

I personally don't mind but, its more i'm conscious maybe the other person wants space?
 
I tend to go to the other room, like excuse myself to the toilet, if its not possible to go to another room I might stand to one side and look at my phone and pretend something is very important there :D

I personally don't mind but, its more i'm conscious maybe the other person wants space?

This is how hubby handles it as well.
 
When my boyfriend leaves, Z has always given us some space. Him and I recently talked about it, and he's perfectly comfortable with all PDA that I have with B in front of him. He even encourages me to have more PDA in actual public (holding hands and such).

For my meta I'd want to give some space at first, but there has never really been a time where she's left and I had to. Z has either gone to her on the time she came over to our place, he had to drive her home because her car died.So I don't know from my own personal reaction.

In the end, we're very kitchen table poly, so we aim to make things as comfortable and open as possible. It's one of those cases where what matters to all of you has bearing. If you don't care watching them say goodbye in cuddly ways, but maybe the meta wants some privacy, that can have an impact as well.
 
I always give space for my partner to escort my meta to the door, her car, whatever so that they can snag a few moments alone for the goodbye kiss and all that. Seems like the polite thing to do.
 
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