Circleoflove
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First of, I'm not 100% sure I'm going to fit in here but I couldn't find anywhere else that's active and anonymous.
I'm monogamous. Not necessarily because I don't believe I can't love two but more because I am incredibly picky and don't fall in love easily.
My husband is unique. In a good way. I might explain eventually but it's long, complicated and not really relevant other than the fact he is not your typical man. He's also poly.
We've been together almost 10 years, legally married for 7. I was a virgin when we met and he's been my only serious partner. Like I said, I'm picky. We have 4 children and another on the way.
He admitted to being poly from the start but he hasn't had an additional physical relationship since we met. There were a couple of long distance relationships that took place entirely over the phone and through text messages. Other people would consider those emotional cheating I guess but I knew about them and completely approved. There were no negative feelings at all.
Recently he started seeing a coworker. I don't know all the details.
I'm surprised at how hard this is for me right now. Last night, in particular, was awful.
I really want this to work. I love him so much and I have no doubt of his love for me. And he is so happy right now.
We promised long ago to always be honest with each other and we have been. He knows how I feel and now we both feel bad because he feels guilty despite me assuring him that my emotions and issues are not his fault.
We're in the early stages of this journey so we're still hashing out schedules and boundaries and everything. My pregnancy (and resulting hormones) and our children complicate things quite a bit but I think we're figuring it out.
Today is better, he has assured me that outside of unforseen events like the situation last night, his non holiday days off will be spent with our girls and me as she works those nights. They both will most likely get the whole last week of December off and are planning a date night so I now know I'll need a distraction of my own to prevent a repeat of last night.
He has also relieved a few of my fears. The most important being that they are practicing safer sex and not putting our baby at unnecessary risk.
The only real questions I have at the moment are whether this will get easier? And was it selfish of me to ask him to focus on our children and me for the first 2 weeks after the baby arrives this summer? I wouldn't have asked but I know that a new baby is an adjustment for everyone. It'll be especially difficult for our toddler because she's used to being the baby.
Like I said, I really want this to work and I've done a lot of reading on poly. I'm just a bit overwhelmed and hormonal at the moment.
I'm monogamous. Not necessarily because I don't believe I can't love two but more because I am incredibly picky and don't fall in love easily.
My husband is unique. In a good way. I might explain eventually but it's long, complicated and not really relevant other than the fact he is not your typical man. He's also poly.
We've been together almost 10 years, legally married for 7. I was a virgin when we met and he's been my only serious partner. Like I said, I'm picky. We have 4 children and another on the way.
He admitted to being poly from the start but he hasn't had an additional physical relationship since we met. There were a couple of long distance relationships that took place entirely over the phone and through text messages. Other people would consider those emotional cheating I guess but I knew about them and completely approved. There were no negative feelings at all.
Recently he started seeing a coworker. I don't know all the details.
I'm surprised at how hard this is for me right now. Last night, in particular, was awful.
I really want this to work. I love him so much and I have no doubt of his love for me. And he is so happy right now.
We promised long ago to always be honest with each other and we have been. He knows how I feel and now we both feel bad because he feels guilty despite me assuring him that my emotions and issues are not his fault.
We're in the early stages of this journey so we're still hashing out schedules and boundaries and everything. My pregnancy (and resulting hormones) and our children complicate things quite a bit but I think we're figuring it out.
Today is better, he has assured me that outside of unforseen events like the situation last night, his non holiday days off will be spent with our girls and me as she works those nights. They both will most likely get the whole last week of December off and are planning a date night so I now know I'll need a distraction of my own to prevent a repeat of last night.
He has also relieved a few of my fears. The most important being that they are practicing safer sex and not putting our baby at unnecessary risk.
The only real questions I have at the moment are whether this will get easier? And was it selfish of me to ask him to focus on our children and me for the first 2 weeks after the baby arrives this summer? I wouldn't have asked but I know that a new baby is an adjustment for everyone. It'll be especially difficult for our toddler because she's used to being the baby.
Like I said, I really want this to work and I've done a lot of reading on poly. I'm just a bit overwhelmed and hormonal at the moment.