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Old 06-14-2011, 02:45 AM
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I know it is very mixed. Because all women are different just like all men are different. I guess I am just hoping for some advice to give to my clients and to use myself to get more sex out of our partners.

I mean, the ladies i am talking about are a long way from nymphs. But I think when sex only happens once a month max, there is something WRONG.
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One factor is, horniness of fertile females comes in waves. Just like other mammals, women are more horny when ovulating. But, most months (years) they really don't want to get pregnant. So, even when horny, there is that issue. Birth control is a pita and can fail.

Hormonal birth control can lessen sex drive.

Pregnancy and lactation can also lower sex drive, as can the exhaustion of chasing a toddler and a preschooler all day.

Men's sex drive remains pretty constant from their early teens to around 30.

However. Women begin to hit their sexual peak at around 40, when estrogen starts to lessen. Then their own testosterone comes to the fore. Male's testosterone and energy starts to lessen at that age.

This is why every woman over 40 needs a nice 20-something boytoy.
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Old 06-14-2011, 02:56 AM
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There's a stereotype that men want sex all the time and women don't, but, it is just a stereotype. There are some men who want sex all the time, and some women who don't, but there are ALSO some women who what sex all the time and some men who don't. Our culture tends to erase them or treat them as exceptions, though.

There's a blog I read that addresses this occasionally:

http://www.realadultsex.com/archives...class-paradigm

http://www.realadultsex.com/archives...-invisible-men

http://www.realadultsex.com/archives...impotence-and-
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Old 06-14-2011, 03:31 AM
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The sexual peak thing is deemed to be a myth for both women and men according to the scientific research it seems.

Just the Facts: Debunking Sex Myths

The Sexual Peak: Myth or Biological Imperative?

Exposed – The Myths and Facts Behind Women’s Sexual Peak
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Old 06-14-2011, 04:21 AM
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My sex drive seems to be a little lower than most men. However, even if I'm not in the mood, I'm still willing to try. Even if a certain part of my body isn't willing to cooperate, my tongue and/or fingers usually do.
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my tongue and/or fingers usually do.
thumbs up to that!!....errrr that could be taken in a few ways
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Old 06-14-2011, 04:30 AM
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Thumbs! I forgot about them. So useful in many different ways...
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Old 06-14-2011, 05:20 AM
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I mean, the ladies i am talking about are a long way from nymphs. But I think when sex only happens once a month max, there is something WRONG.
once a month?? thats absolutely horrible. I could never let that happen. I would go crazy.
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Old 06-14-2011, 05:48 AM
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One factor is, horniness of fertile females comes in waves. Just like other mammals, women are more horny when ovulating. But, most months (years) they really don't want to get pregnant. So, even when horny, there is that issue. Birth control is a pita and can fail.

Hormonal birth control can lessen sex drive.

Pregnancy and lactation can also lower sex drive, as can the exhaustion of chasing a toddler and a preschooler all day.

Men's sex drive remains pretty constant from their early teens to around 30.

However. Women begin to hit their sexual peak at around 40, when estrogen starts to lessen. Then their own testosterone comes to the fore. Male's testosterone and energy starts to lessen at that age.

This is why every woman over 40 needs a nice 20-something boytoy.
I have noticed this in my own relationship. Stress and exhaustion play a huge roll for both of us . For me personally I could take or leave it in my 20's and early 30's, but after 36 everything went into overdrive. After my second baby, the lady parts just didn't feel the same, there was some loss of sensation and muscle control that lasted about 2-3 years. My husband's "need" has gradually decreased after 40, whether this is due to age, stress, medical issues (recurring kidney stones, high cholesteral, occassional high blood preassure) or both I'm not sure, I'm guessing it all plays a part. He will claim that he is always horny, yet he is the one who falls asleep before I can even get my teeth brushed (much less get the kids to bed) .
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The sexual peak thing is deemed to be a myth for both women and men according to the scientific research it seems.
Just the Facts: Debunking Sex Myths

The Sexual Peak: Myth or Biological Imperative?

Exposed – The Myths and Facts Behind Women’s Sexual Peak
With all due respect, those articles are not sources I would trust for "scientific research." I would refer to a peer-reviewed scientific or medical journal for scientific research, not two bloggers and Women's Health magazine which is a not-so-great fluff publication.
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