Recent content by BelleInconnue

Hi there! I just saw your message. Thanks for replying! My name is Shannon, by the way. How interesting that we have a similar situation, are around the same age (I'm 42), and both live in South Florida. Feel free to PM me anytime as well if you would like to chat.

To Marcus Good idea on sending a message to the moderator--I guess I am making some assumptions and operating from "fear of the unknown" since this is all new territory for me anyway. Thanks for the viewpoint. I think I'll do what you suggested.

loneliness.. Hi Poly, Thanks for the reply. To be honest, things are moving along but just at a much slower pace than I had imagined as far as telling his daughter and others knowing (I admit, patience isn't my strongest point :)) He has already had the talk about me being part of the family...

Hi everyone, It's been quite a while since I posted here. I'm in a polyfidelous vee with my married boyfriend (they also have a preteen kid who doesn't know the true nature of our relationship but knows we love each other as close friends/family; she and I also get along very well). Anyway, 8...

Excellent advice and points of view from everyone--I am honored to be part of such an articulate and wise group of people! Thanks a lot, everyone--going to implement some of the suggestions here. I realize that I need to have my "own life" in addition to having my life with my boyfriend--in...

poly activities Hi LovingRadiance, That's a good idea, finding poly-friendly group and activities. There are a couple of groups in my area, but I hesitated about getting involved because I wasn't sure if it was more of a place where people are looking to date others--I'm not looking to date...

Thanks so much, Kevin. I truly appreciate the support and replies. Will keep you posted!

being "put on hold" Thanks Kevin and Cyndi for your replies...I appreciate the support. We have been together for a year and a half and things have gone very well so far--I know he loves me and I am a high priority to him. I do accept the fact that they aren't ready to tell their daughter...

Hi everyone, I'm in a "vee", with my male partner having a wife, with whom I'm friends, and a 9-year-old daughter. I moved to their area (had been living a couple hours away) about 5 months ago and lived with them for 4 months while I looked for a job (just changed careers and was job hunting)...

Thanks so much for all the helpful replies! It's very nice to hear positive reports of V relationships going well. Gr8xpectations, thank you for the positive report of how well your V is going. It gives me hope that maybe eventually living together could work out, even while our parents are...

Hi folks, I've been feeling so confused lately about things. I love my married boyfriend. I really like and get along with his wife and kids. I live about an hour away at this time from them, but plan on moving closer as soon as I can, probably within the next 6 months. (I have a work contract...

Being a secret I am a "secondary" also and do feel sad that it is a secret sometimes. In my situation, my boyfriend and his wife have 2 kids, and they have immediate family who would be very judgmental, so they prefer for them to not know (primarily her family). And there is concern about...

Thanks for your input, Dagferi! I think it is great that you try so hard to split your time as evenly as possible between your husband and your boyfriend. I like the fact that you don't seem to have a primary and a secondary. They seem to both be primaries. We don't like those hierarchical...

I am definitely a person who likes my "alone time" and independence, and I know my beloved likes and needs his "me" time (like we all do), and his wife, as well. We hang out together sometimes, and get along great as a group. But more often than not, I have alone time with my beloved, and he...

What a lovely story! I'm so happy for you. I can relate to all your feelings you posted in your first post, since I am also in a V/triad relationship. Now I feel encouraged to see how things can work out! Wishing you continued love and peace.