While my wife is all for it and very interested, the other woman (former GF turned Object of Our Collective Desire) seems really confused. She will call or come over and hang out, be really engaged, and then be "busy" for days at a time. Granted, we know she has a daughter, is a single mother, takes classes, and has a job, but we need to feel wanted if we're going to want someone...so our desire for her is starting to wane, I think. We've asked her to tell us if this is not something she wants to do, but she keeps on saying she wants us for the long term, got jealous when we admitted to going to a swinger club where other women were really into PLove. Her words and actions don't connect so, to avoid my wife getting hurt, I suggested we fall back a little to give Tee some space to figure out what she wants and which direction she is going to go. In the meanwhile, PLove is really interested in exploring her attraction to women but hasn't really had a chance to do that yet.