Recent content by bobcat725

similar to you... we are trying the same.... but slightly different Hi - First, I'm sorry that an affair took place. It's always really difficult when honest communication was not explored from the beginning. Trust becomes an issue and it's hard to backtrack on that. Same thing with us (I...

I very much like what you wrote in your reasons for choosing poly. Really down-to-earth and honest. Thanks for sharing. In my marriage, I'm the one who brought up being "poly" first, and my husband was somewhat forced to either accept it, or leave. I'm sure he feels much the same way you feel...

Thank you everyone for all your great advice - much appreciated. Lover S came over today, and then husband DR came home from a meeting at work, and the three of us sat and drank coffee and chatted. The guys quickly found topics of interested that they shared and had some good, relaxed -...

We're middle-aged boring Tuna-Helper eating suburban parents with two kids in elementary school. I'm a stay-at-home mom. I'm on the PTA board and chair of a handful of committees. I work parttime at my kids' school. My husband is a self-employed computer geek who just got elected as an elder at...

My husband of almost 12 years (DR) and I (DM) have been relatively new to poly (< 1 year), following this forum and occasionally adding our 2 cents these past few months. Many many ups and downs since I have begun seeing someone, both at home and with lover (S). But we're still in it (all...

similar reaction... I don't have much to say other than to relate to what you're experiencing. My husband and I are new to poly (8-9 months?). I recently began seeing someone, after months and months of just talking about it incessantly. His reaction was similar to Nathan's reaction-- he loves...

some "if" scenarios Hi - Finding out the person you feel you can trust the most has actually been dishonest with you for a while is really awful. I'm sorry your situation happened this way. I'm just thinking out loud (I'm new to this site and to poly), but from what you describe, it sounds...

Me too. I'm 46 and my libido shot through the roof. And the more I had sex, the more I wanted it. It was almost a nuisance, really. Like I became so distracted throughout the day with thoughts of having intercourse or getting off. I have read that for some women going through peri-menopause...

I unfortunately sound like your wife (and you like my husband) in the way she deals with her emotions, with you being the unmoving dock. When my husband gets upset or bent out of shape... I get defensive, and think of my own needs first... I am sorry that you're not feeling fulfilled in your...

some really great, thoughtful insights from so many people! Thank you, everyone, for all that you've shared about your experiences and what you've learned... so many great insights and suggestions. So much that I hadn't given thought to (yet, but will now). I have much to work on, I realize...

Thanks for the insights. Much to consider. Right now I should probably put all my energies into reciprocating the love that my husband has shown me. He's trying very hard to understand me and give me the space and freedom that I need. I need to show him love by giving him the support and...

New Relationship Energy running amok.... My husband and I are new to poly, too. I have a lover that I have been involved with for about a month. My husband is looking (we've been married for 10+ years with 2 children), though if I weren't poly, he probably would not be looking at all. He...

let's shrug it off and move on My first posting.... Hi SnC. My husband and I are new to poly, too. Sorry about all the hooplah with the back and forth of the initial postings. How about we all start over? I'm hoping to glean some info off this thread.