Recent content by CheshireCat

What an interesting read this thread is. My husband has recently confided that he's having trouble enjoying sex with me recently (partner of over 10 years). He's placing quite a lot of significance on the lack of enjoyment, at least in part because he's not getting the same issue with his new...

Yes, indeed she is, and I think I'm ok with that now. Taking a "time out", if you mean putting his new relationship on pause, just wouldn't be possible or fair really, he'd be utterly miserable and I don't really think it's necessary as long as I can remember to vocalise my needs/concerns and...

Bit late to this, and distracting from the baby-related chatter, but just wanted to add I SO identify with this trigger. Constant phone beeps and pings and vibrations had me thinking that DH and his new girlfriend were constantly talking to each other ALL THE TIME and it drove me crazy for a few...

Heh. I suppose I was looking at it from the sense that in future we're going to try to give each other approval before really starting off down a proper road with a potential new partner. :) Thanks again for the advice. Guess I'll just see how it turns out!

Heh - he's redeemed himself slightly with some very sweet messaging just now (I know that this means the metamour must be at the bar or in the toilet - heh) but I've still got a ball of tension internally that I don't want. :( I think I might choose to just call it excitement about seeing my...

Hello again! So we met up, the three of us and a friend of hers. This time, I made a proper effort to just relax and be myself for the most part, seeking a quick squeeze here and there but (I thought) giving them room to be affectionate as well. I felt ok at the end, but this time *she* felt...

Wow - thank you all so much :) Snowmelt - I think I just used entanglement purely because it's a pretty word (heh) but now I think about it more, it's also because it happened so unexpectedly and quickly that it does all feel a bit messy for everyone, so I've tried to visualise "untangling" the...

Hello :) HUGE Apologies for the exceedingly long post. It was even longer but I've edited heavily ;-) Any advice that anyone can offer would be appreciated!! My husband and I have recently joined OKCupid. Our relationship has been notionally "open" for years (just not found more than one or...

Hello peeps! Very new to poly world, husband suggested this site as a place for useful discussion I can't get elsewhere, will be looking around! CCx