Recent content by detritus

Yes, yes, and yes.

Hmm, that's interesting about the vitamin D. I had my annual checkup a couple weeks ago and my vitamin D levels were a bit low. Fingers crossed that taking supplements helps cut down on the bruising a bit. I've been passing along all the other ideas offered here and am just letting my husband...

Thanks for the words of advice everyone. I'm not sure I have more to add at the moment, but you've all given me much to think about. I had good (if tough) conversations with all involved last night. My husband has been seeing a therapist for the last few months--and I have too. We've no...

Dingedheart, When we first started opening up our relationship I hadn't realized I was quite as interested in kink as apparently I am. I did raise it with him before I started dating my BF, though, so he did get to "sign off" on it before I started this relationship. He's currently not dating...

Thanks for the responses. I enjoy pain, but the whole humiliation/service side of things isn't really my cup of tea. E-stim has been raised as a possibility--might have to explore that I guess. My husband has been very clear that BDSM just doesn't appeal to him at all. It took a fair amount of...

I've read through this thread and looked around the forums a bit and can't seem to find anyone struggling with the issue I'm struggling with right now. My husband and I are still fairly new to poly, but doing much better than we were several months ago when I was posting a bit more. He's quite...

When I take the test I usually come out either INTP or INFP--but always I, N, and P. I used to be very interested in personality typing, both with Myers-Briggs and the enneagram. I don't know if INFP is necessarily more common among the polyamorous, but I do know that it's a personality type...

I made this same mistaken assumption. We're working through it, and I'm sure you and Tess can, too.

Hi Freetime, I've been reading your thread for a while, because so much of what you've written resonated with the feelings I was experiencing. So much has changed for me since I started this thread. The woman my husband (Nexus) was seeing when I wrote this broke up with him to date her...

Boo! I hate it when the forums eat my responses like that. It's happened to me a lot, so you think I'd learn at this point to just copy everything before I hit submit, but I never do.

I think this makes a lot of sense. I know a lot of my unease in opening up my relationship is feeling very ungrounded and that there are no relationship "rules of thumb" to look toward. In a mono relationship, there are some basic guidelines like the "third date rule" or how long is normal to...

Agreed. It was an amazing day. Spent with my favorite person.

It's a really great book. I'm currently reading it and I also bought the audiobook by Tara Brach called Meditations for Emotional Healing and finding both very helpful in getting past a lot of the emotional baggage I have from growing up that's making the change to poly in my marriage difficult...

Hi baby!

Actually, selection pressures don't act upon the species as a whole. Most research supports Dawkins' theory that evolution acts at the level of individual genes, although I think there are a number of biologists that disagree and believe it acts at the individual level. Basically, there is...