Recent content by drgnsyr

I have to second the rock analogy. My husband is my other half, my shelter from the storm, the one I can count on no matter what, who will ALWAYS be there. No matter how crazy and chaotic life gets, I can count on him to hold me and make me feel like it will all be alright. He would be this...

In response to the original poster, someone already tried to make this point, but I'll try to rephrase it so that it's a little clearer. If you've managed to meet and interview 20 men and none of them are what you are looking for (let's not call them pigs - they are simply not what you're...

Whether it's fair or not, I think the answer to this can have a lot more to do with insecurity than misogyny. If you want to be with another woman then you want something that your male SO is incapable of offering. Therefore it is not a judgement on him; his manliness is not deficient. You...

My first poly relationship was MFM. Now, while the two guys were, in many ways, dating, they were not in a sexual relationship with each other. However, they were often in sexual situations with me simultaneously. Does that qualify as a male unicorn? I certainly found it "magical." They were...

I don't think it's a "fake sense" of being right. I think that a lot of Christians simply fail to remember the "judge not" portion of their doctrine. The person who felt that homosexuality was wrong, and felt right with the Holy Spirit regarding that, had a proper understanding of what was...

I currently identify as a Reform Jew, though I feel a strong pull towards Reconstructionist Judaism (I like keeping to more of the old laws, but paired with a very "liberal" lifestyle). The boyfriend is a Catholic convert. Previously he was an Asatru priest, of all things (Karma, you should...

I view the "Old Testament" for Christians is a lot like studying the Talmud and Kabbalah for Jews. Paul testified that Jesus had provided a new covenant, so, technically, you can get everything you need to live a simply Christian life from the New Testament and the teachings of Jesus. But Jesus...

Jewish Female Polyamorous submissive housewife Dominate Owner Heteroflexible (stole that term from Fetlife - so perfect!) Southern Urban American Nerd

OH! Found the rest of the thread. The desert states shouldn't count. I'm told that even though it's hotter there it's not as uncomfortable as it is here because yall don't have the humidity we have. Sometimes I feel like walking down the street is like swimming through a hot tub ...

102F is equal to ~39C. Luckily Atlanta's only at about 94F/34C right now. Where's it 102? You have my pity; this is bad enough!

I love the braided gold rings that have the different types of gold. If I hadn't needed a solid plain wedding band for religious/cultural reasons, I think I would have gone with one of those for my wedding. So pretty, and a great metaphor for showing how different relationships are all still...

There's a difference between rules and boundaries, I think, at least in my view of things. A boundary is a first person policy: "I won't have sex unless I love the other person," or "I won't date someone who refuses to use a condom." A rule is a second person policy: "You can't have sex with...

Reading through this thread there were two lessons that just jumped out at me as "Yes, this!" 6. Everything needs to be talked about. Nothing can be assumed. What is obvious to one may be a complete mystery to others. This was pretty much THE problem I had with my ex. "No, it never occurred to...

Hey, I know I don't post here often, but I have some articles that I've written for my blog (http://morallyresponsible.blogspot.com/) that I would love to see featured. I figure Real Housewife of Atlanta, Opening the Door, or The Boys Room (soon to be featured on Offbeatmama.com) would be the...

I wish I could get people to think past their biases What you have described here is exactly why my boyfriend won't talk to the therapist/social worker at the VA. It's a licensed psychologist or nothing. I know you're not going back, but I would love to hear how she might have replied to the...