Recent content by dVdT

All I know right now is that he doesn't want to hurt me, or he doesn't want me to feel hurt? Those are, or can be, two different things. I am afraid that if I tell him how much this does cause me pain, he will feel resentment towards me for stopping him, or wanting him to stop something that...

Coming from someone who's lived like this, too (and if I'm way off, just tell me), being an 's' in a D/s relationship does NOT mean that you, and what you need, is not important. You are and it is.

I want to discuss our situation with people who might understand what I'm going through, and have some words of comfort, advice, or wisdom. So, here goes. Names, while not important, will keep the players sorted out. So, I'm Karen, he's Matt, she's Sara. Close enough to our real names to not...

(bunch of good stuff snipped to answer just one more question tonight...oh and yes, she and I are both bisexual. Which is great, really.) answering your question quoted above...I really only meant what I said, that I don't *know* if I would have chosen her as a partner. I am a slow-moving...

I'll try to answer a few questions, and maybe learn something in the process myself :) (little bits of text snipped to highlight questions) well. Thinking about it, honestly the only thing keeping me from being 100% honest all the time is the fact that my husband's happiness is really, really...

Hi- I stumbled upon this forum while searching the web for something that would help me deal with this new-to-me polyamory in my life. I definitely need some help with this stuff, as someone who is emotionally monogamous and with a partner who was 'supposed' to be the same, but has now...