I to feel confused over the poly lifestyle but reading the post from crimsons sapphire I can't help but think he is using all of them... I think (not always but..) poly is about power and control, reading her post I wanted to tell her to get out of that relationship.. But I did not.
I understand jealousy , I am 50, wife is 42 and her living boyfriend in 36. He has been living with us for 3 weeks now. I was never jealous of the time they spent together, the weekend get away or the sexual relation they had, in fact it was a bit of a turn on. I was ready for the day he would move in, ready for my wife reaction.. I get along very well with him and I enjoy that they are having newly wed style sex all the time.
Where my issue of jealousy comes from is that I feel forgotten, they include me but not in the planning of the event. My friends are telling me to wait it out its the novelty of a living lover but I sense it about who controls what..
My wife tells me that it's all in my head.