I use "HereticHousewife" because I'm a housewife, but deviate significantly from the norm when it comes to what most people think when they think about what a houseweife is all about.
When my relationship went poly (I'm the "hinge" of a MFM "V") we decided that we would each choose how "out" we wanted to be about it, based on our own personal comfort zones. I couldn't force my other significant other into a closet, but I couldn't drag him out of one against his will, either...