Recent content by Insane00illusions

I know you guys are right. There isn't anyone to blame. It's just something that has happened and I need to dust myself off and move on. We probably should have taken more of a break before trying to be friends, but we both care about each other a great deal. His dad just passed away on Friday...

I'm feeling worse and worse, just in general. I live with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years (J), and am still in the talking stage of what I would safely call a 2nd boyfriend, emotionally, only because that is what his wife and really, all of us, are comfortable with right now. I realized I was poly...

I'm a firm believer that no one ever knows what happens between a couple except that couple, and they likely see it differently. It's mainly about how you want to proceed with your relationship. Honesty and boundaries are the most important things. If he doesn't respect your boundaries, then...

This seems so dishonest, which is the opposite of polyamory. I know there are two sides to everything, and things like this can be worked through. In my experience, a relationship needs to be really strong to go through the changes and new stresses of polyamory. I've been told in the past that...

I think it's great that you are being so openminded and working through the problems you are having with this. And I'm certain that your husband does feel more relaxed at having opened up to you about all of this. I firmly believe that everyone should go at the pace of the most uncomfortable...

I just wanted to share and say that I love the feeling that NRE brings. I love getting to know the new person, or in my case a friend I've known forever and getting to know them a new way. I love the NRE between myself and the potential new metamour, and the NRE that gets pumped into my primary...

Yes. That sounds fabulous lol I have never really been interested in having two bi men interested in each other, but two men that got along well enough that I could sleep between them. EPIC...

When I was 14 I was trying to think of something that would fit me if I tried to chat online. I was kind of one of those goth kids that was writing morbid poetry ect... so I came up with Insane Illusions.. sometimes I add a 0 or double 00 in there but I use it everywhere it's funny cause...

I actually just did a report for one of my classes about therapy for "non-traditional" couples and learned that once therapists can learn more and put aside their own beliefs (something that must be done with any different culture, religion, ect..) they find that poly people mostly have the same...

OMG! you would think all she would need to do is print out the threats and say LOOK AT THIS!!!!!!!!!!!

ha ha, I love it. I think if I had a secondary I would prefer him to be friends with my boyfriend, I like all my friends to be friends and everyone to be happy. I think it would be harder for me to be friends, well because I just have a hard time making new friends.

Well I would give my boyfirend a little time, but I would be outraged. If he didn't come to his senses soon I would have to take a stand for myself. It depends on how long they have been together and if she could walk away, I might accept him back after a while. But how could you trust someone...

*hugs* it IS a lot of preassure, and it's hard. It sounds like you also need to take some time and really think about what you want and need. You mentioned figureing out your motives. That's what I would do, I would take some time and think about what I really wanted for my life. like you said...

Goodness, people. OF COURSE we don't know all sides to the story, because only one person posted here. More often than not, we only have one side of the story, because there aren't a lot of relationships where everyone is getting on here and telling their side. We have to go by what the OP...

I wasn't being flippant. I was trying my best to put myself in all situations and think what I would do, and am really concerned/interested to see how this turns out.