Recent content by just3

S is no longer working those long days. It's been nice. His job used him, didn't give raises for years, and then gave very very tiny ones. It was insulting. He took all that super personally, but wasn't willing to change it. He started this new job a month and a half ago. It was horrible when he...

You are probably right on the avoiding. I did try to talk but the answer remained "I don't know" for 2 months. Then I gave up. After that, it was pride, and asking myself why should I have to be the one to say something first. That probably did make things worse. As far as his stress, believe...

It's not that I'm not excited. I am just afraid that once again I will be treated like crap. S said he got the dating account out of spite. He seemed to think it would make him happier during all the stress he was under. I still don't understand that one, since I was the one at home dealing...

Quick background and update for those who dont know... Hubs (S) suggested trying polyamory. I didn't want swinging, because I have to have emotional attachment before sex. He stated many times he didn't want anyone else. We talked about it for almost 2 years before I said ok. I hooked up with...

It's been awhile This past year has been a long stressful one. I think the last time I really posted was a year ago, when the hubs lied. After that, it all went downhill. To kinda recap... Hubs started a yo-yo effect, where he was ok, then not, then ok, then not. Working long days and taking...

I won't say things have changed in the past couple months. Hours JUST went back to normal a week ago, so no talking has been done at all. Lots of apologies, but no discussions. I feel like he's put our relationship on the back burner, since it took him 2 months to even start to talk to me. I'm...

Honestly, I was thinking about that, too. Coming up with the money that's better spent feeding my kids to listen to him try to justify lying, or lie more. I think this is something he needs to figure out, and for once I can't say do this this and this and maybe things will be okay. I have no...

Yeah, I called him a few names, myself. He's not arguing about the fact it was stupid and he is wrong. He says he panicked and didn't know what to do when confronted. I reminded him of a time a few years back when he asked me if I was talking to an ex of mine and I was honest and said yes...

Ok, so... I took a break to do lots of thinking, trying to find my way in a mass of craziness. Things that I thought were worked out may not have been as worked out as portrayed. Just when I thought things were going great, we were happy, a bomb was dropped in my lap. Almost 2 weeks ago, I...

I did straight up ask him about the cuckold part, and he swears that's not what he wants. Things have been a ton better since the big melt down and he's opening up and talking to me again. Guess he didn't realize he'd just quit talking and being my best friend. So now hes making it a point to...

Well you would think it would die down but in all this time it hasnt... Well it probably wont ever. I can honestly say I wouldnt want to work with hubs or any bf I might have. Some people Im sure wouldnt have a problem with it. But then again everyones situation is different. Sorry Im not much...

I think since each persons relationship is different in ideals your going to get a different answer. Look up the post titled Your ideal relationship to see each persons views. Mine is.. eventually all living together in a V situation. Now I have hubs(s) and a guy Im dating now but dunno how...

S and I are back to our almost daily sex. Which makes me feel a lot better lol. S did want me to get another lover. He honestly wanted it to be a threesome-type thing. I have major hang ups on that because of past horrors. He understood and then was okay with me getting the bf. But yes, the...

It really was exhausting. lol. After having the major blow up we had to talk... and talk... and talk a lot more. Sometimes he holds crap in till it builds to the eruption. He hasn't done that since then :) We have talked when stress starts to hit, not when it's piled on so thick you can't...

I actually thought this, as well.