This is new for me too, never been on anytype of forum before. All of this is new. The best advice I can give you is don't hold back any feelings and comunicate with each and everyone of your poly family. Our quad has been through some pretty rough times, and most of the time it was one of us holding back and not letting the rest of us know something was bothering them. Almost like a domino affect, not good. We have delt with jealousy, envy, insecurity, time limitations (still a problem), separation anxiety, you name it we have probably faced it. I don't know what more we could face. But all in all it is great. My husband #2 makes me feel so good and I know my husband #1 is just as happy. We are more relaxed and comfortable when the 4 of us are together, things just fit. Our children are even beginning to realize when we are together, they don't want to leave. It is truely amazing.
I'm not sure how this thing works--I've never encountered something like visitor messages before. But I am so glad you messaged me! I was just thinking that I wanted to know more about the dynamics of a quad. I'm a complete novice, but every day that goes by shows me more of how happy these relationships make me. I've certainly experienced a small portion of the difficulty, but I'm really enjoying being surrounded by love, too. If you have any advice, I'm glad to hear it. I have no idea what I'm doing!
welcome to the forum, it has really helped me out on a few things. It is really nice to have others you can talk to about our lifestyle. This is all fairly new to my husband and I, but am very glad it has come about. Our quad (mfmf) has been through some rough times just in a short while, dealing with insecurity, jealousy, envy, anxiety and stress, but communication and the love for one another has brought us to a place where we all want to be. I am not going to tell you that this is the easiest thing in the world, god knows it is not. Hang in there. If you need to talk, but don't want it to go out on the forum, just private message me. I usually check this once a day or two. Mellsey