Recent content by lifetake2

No you are not going crazy. It sounds like your husband is under immense pressure, and right or wrong has decided 'poly' will distract him from the realities of work, finances, a marriage he has decided is stale, and ultimately having to live with the future of a Trisomy 13 baby. However, if...

I'm male, and yes, I've done dumb shit clouded by sex, but not after 3 days. I agree-- I hope this was Vanille's interpretation and not something Armani told her. :(

Okay, as someone probably more versed in the "pro" aspects, let me see if I can do a quick post-mortem on what went down. Armani, you thought it sounded like a good idea, and heck, variety is fun (thus the idea for a blonde). Unfortunately, you were a newbie and they knew it. The first one...

Fine, then no flak, not condemnation or anything like that. But as the husband of mennodaughter let me make the options clear: You can either: 1) Come clean, NOW, before the next time you even think about Zoey. It will hurt Ellie, it will hurt you, and it may destroy your marriage. It may be...

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I can tell you that while pregnant or immediately after (ie 6 months) is NOT the time to imply you are not interested in your wife. While you can say that is not the case, bringing up adding a 3rd she has already said no will likely make her feel that way. My suggestion.....if you love your...

Well welcome to both of you. I'm fairly new here as well but the site is a fountain of information.

From a non-relationship side, I can confirm this is valid. A lot of time younger adults, especially nowadays, really just need someone to lay out expectations. I'm mid-30's, but I'm shocked at how little motivation 20-somethings have without structure and expectations. Most do well when you...

He gets to do anything he wants, with anyone he wants, and you have no input and can't do the same. He now picks what sounds like a partner that has inherent risks for you (STDs and emotional). It sounds like he a lot less poly and much more just a cheater, who got you to go along, possibly...

Thank you both for the encouragement. This is new territory, but I agree I'm glad it came with this path. As for "unicorn," if it helps someone to see what can happen, so be it. FWIW, we expect to fit polyfidelity, per the glossary.

Ok, if you know where you are then you know where you need to get. This is MY opinion but I think it would be preferred by your wife to hear from you. You need to address what has occurred first, THEN you can discuss if your wife is OK with keeping your new partner. From there you decide the...

Hell, I'm fairly new but I can tell you step 1: Tell wife EVERYTHING, NOW. Regardless of whether your new partner is poly is not relevant because right now you are not poly you are cheating. I can't tell you how to bridge from where you are to where you want to be; but communication is the...

Ok, I've been lurking for a while, but this is my 1st post. I'm trying to wrap my head around some changes going on. I'm a Type-A, and normally like things orderly and neat, and nothing about this fits that. I'm just looking for reassurance (or otherwise) from someone more experienced that...