Recent content by Lost421

I feel for you, I have had the same experience. Most of our friends are mono, so it might not be quite the same, but I still understand where you are coming from since my wife has had two pretty lasting connections with other men. I'm happy for her but I'm still dissatisfied that I can't seem...

I get it, but the thing is that I'm not actively in pursuit of anyone. I am not actively looking, but that isn't exactly working for me. I'm open enough about being poly, I'm not shouting it out to the world but I'm not keeping anything hidden either, it's just who I am. It's not as simple as...

I've been struggling with something for a while now. I'm happy my partner can find partners, be they short or long term, to love and feel close to, but am I ever going to get that with someone? It's only been six years since we opened ourselves up to poly relationships, and I've still never...

This is all good advice, thank you. My plan is to continue to be her friend for the time being, and definitely while she's living with us, but I'm not sure how she's going to feel about that. I guess I'll just have to hope for the best...

I guess that really depends on what exactly you struggle with in her other relationships. Is it the fact that she's having other relationships, or is it that you don't think the guys she's dating are right for her? If it's simply that she's dating other men, then you may want to have a long...

I don't think it's unreasonable to want a quick text at all. My wife always texts me if she's spending the night at her boyfriend's house, or if she's coming home late, and ever if I know she's spending the night she usually sends me a quick goodnight text, it's just a small gesture to show...

Yeah, I know how delicate a situation this is and I don't want to wreck it by taking things too quickly, or by just being a rebound for her. We've been friends for almost three years and I don't want to lose that with her and I don't want to screw up her friendship with my wife. I genuinely...

Sounds like you're on the right track to me. You're feeling the same feelings just about anybody would in the situation you're in, and you're talking to your boyfriend about your feelings and how you have felt left out recently and that you feel you're not always his top priority. I don't...

I don't think it's going to be an issue anyway. I think she's pretty freaked out about the whole idea of a poly relationship in the first place, and I think she's just trying to find some kind of emotional escape. I can be her friend, and I'm betting that's all it will ever be.

My wife and I have been in a poly relationship for about 5 years now (woot woot!) and I'm really happy she's getting to explore and get what she wants out of life, I'm her primary and we live together just us and it's more of a multi tailed "V" that a proper V. No worries there, I love her and...

All I can say is I've been there, and I know how you feel. I was taken by surprise. I felt just as devastated at first. It was a difficult road, but I learned to quell my fears and try to trust my wife when she said she still loved me and didn't want to leave me. The jealousy took longer, and...

That's all good advice. Thanks. I can be her friend first, I always have so that won't be hard.

It's funny, when we starting in a poly relationship I thought that was going to be the issue, but it's all about the feelings and issues of monogamous relationships that make things messy.

I'm really glad neither one of us can be rash. We live in different cities now and it's not exactly easy to drive of 6 hours on a whim to see one another, although I painfully want to, and from our conversations over the past few days she painfully wants to see me. This is so complicated. The...

Thanks Emm, this is one of my major concerns, because my wife is one of her best friends and basically she has been our kind of silent go between for years. Our mutual friend (I'll call her Laura) has had feelings for me for a long time (almost as soon as we all starting hanging out) and I've...