Recent content by lovebird13

Everyone has been so warm here. I feel somewhat numb right now. Yesterday he said hi DID NOT accept the end of out intimacy and today he texted saying he did. The hard part is...I know they are making decisions as a couple. I never get to know what the discussions look like. I don't see that he...

Being tied up and teased...hmmm! I love that. I think everyone has their yes, no, maybe list. Just cause you don't like pain doesn't mean you aren't subby.

Oh and...I realized that they are probably not poly. They want to include me in a limited way but the schedule and out of state thing is such a barrier, plus the fact that she really doesn't want me to be alone with him. One and maybe two weekends a year...she said. I can be with them together...

My heart has really been hurting off and on today. They have been texting me and I've had no acknowledgement of my 'break up' emails.

Thanks GS. I took the latter route this morning and though I'm sad, I feel good about it. I realized some arrogance on my part in thinking she should be more allowing. I love them both and hope that we all end up dear friends.

Thanks. She and I had a talk today and basically she isn't willing to share. She didn't admit it, but she basically said I can't be alone with him for more than an afternoon if I go to California and if he comes here, she's coming and again, no time alone. I love what you said about possession...

Thanks! I find so much written from the couples point of view which is somewhat helpful. Not so much from the singles. Can you help me search this site for that?

Hey, I would love some feedback from experienced polys. I've been really happy swinging for about 3 years. I've had ongoing lovers but I haven't really connected in a big way with any of them. And it was intentional. 'Keep your heart where it belongs...in your chest,' was my motto. In Dec. I...

"Being sexually self-actualized is important, and once you've taken the time to understand yourself, your motivations, and your needs, there really isn't a whole lot limiting you but your own conscience." The article seemed shallow and frivolous to me. Magazine writers need something to write...

Power exchange and BDSM books I am really open to hearing about books that any of you love or would feel to be helpful to beginners. Though not a BDSM book (more about ass-sex) I like The Surrender by Toni Bentley.

Talk, talk, talk! I'm so happy this thread is active. Thanks to all. I am in a new relationship with a couple who live in another state. We just had an unbelievably intense five days together. We are all new to poly, but they are experienced BDSM practitioners. She (M) is one of the best...

It's human nature to compare and judge, but we are evolving, right?

Finding my way I met my first BDSM-oriented friend last July. He's a switch and being with him was completely confusing to me. I adore him, but our chemistry has never been that easy. "Good morning! Great day for a good choking," completely threw me off!!! ha ha! But it turned me on to the...

The need to label I'm new here. After reading most of this thread, what struck me the most was how on every site I've checked out and every group I've been around, (swinger, BDSM, fetish, poly, vintage trailer, modern design enthusiasts, 'spiritual' people, essential oil lovers, pagans, etc...

Hi, Thanks for this amazing resource. I've just lost two posts because I wasn't logged in so I'm feeling a little frustrated.... I'm new. I need support. I'm a single woman coming into a 5 year relationship and it's not defined at all. I just know I fell hard after protecting my heart for...