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    Poly Vignettes: Sharing Success & Happiness

    You are very kind.... You know what - people tell me I hide my light.... I should maybe let you know that life is not always as bad as I paint it... (though sometimes it feels that way) My husband of nearly 30 years is totally in love with me. He is kinda in love with this other woman, but...
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    Poly Vignettes: Sharing Success & Happiness

    I'm now wondering why I even asked - was I trying to pick holes in your happy life - just cos I'm struggling and want eveyone else to be struggling too?? xx
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    Poly Vignettes: Sharing Success & Happiness

    sounds really lovely ..... is there any prospect of bringing your own family (well - maybe not your ex, but your child (boy/girl? I've forgotten)) into this lovely alternative family? I imagine that would just complete the circle for you.....:)
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    How do Monos cope with Polys?

    Ta very much and sorry I kept addressing you! Will search around for other wise souls xx
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    How do Monos cope with Polys?

    I'm wondering if you missed this question I posted - about dealing with the jealousy feelings, and getting support around the feelings of insecurity.... sorry if I'm hassling...:)
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    How do Monos cope with Polys?

    It may be very useful to you to find out what is triggering your feelings of jealousy, so that those root causes can be addressed.. For instance, if insecurity is the underlying cause, you and your others could work on ways to help you feel secure, safe and supported in your relationships, which...
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    Hi Fidelia Lovely woman.... Just couldn't help noticing - you - and Mono actually - described...

    Hi Fidelia Lovely woman.... Just couldn't help noticing - you - and Mono actually - described as senior members, but only joined in August 2009! What's that about? Is this site a recent thing? Ta Fidelia x
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    How do Monos cope with Polys?

    I really like your clear thinking. Thank you xx
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    How do Monos cope with Polys?

    You all seem to be saying we should all get together and talk about it. here's my question : This all started about 2 years ago. After meeting her, and exploring the idea of them having a 'friendship', I decided i couldn't trust it (they'd bee lying to me). I eventually asked my husband to...
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    How do Monos cope with Polys?

    Thanks for this Fidelia. You're all amazingly sweet. got another question - which I'll post in the right place, with a quote.... x
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    How do Monos cope with Polys?

    He says he doesn't sexualise her. Although he's just told me that he has wanted to kiss her. So I'm a bit confused now (in fact I'm f.....d off!!). I think he is confused. I think he should search around this site, and start working out for himself what he wants!
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    How do Monos cope with Polys?

    You're very kind - thank you. I'll absorb this and see where it all takes me.... thanks again for your thoughts.
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    How do Monos cope with Polys?

    I think this might be what he's after. They have a very intellectual relationship. Passionate - but not physical. But it could have developed that way cos he wants to keep that boundary to protect us and our marriage - more to look into I guess....
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    How do Monos cope with Polys?

    He tells me he doesn't want sex with her - although he is attracted to her (she's 20 years younger than him, and very beautiful). An awful lot of our friends think he's kidding himself about the sex bit, but he insists it's not sexual for him.... He's sexually very fulfilled with me - if that's...
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    Scared Monogamous Newbie

    Hiya - just to say - I've just joined this group. My situation is I've been married 30 years, and I'm mono, but my husband appears to be poly. He's been kinda interested in others always - and I've always been threatened by it, hurt, jealous. But he never stopped loving me. I've just started...
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