Recent content by Midnight

You are very kind. You know what? People tell me I hide my light. I should maybe let you know that life is not always as bad as I paint it (though sometimes it feels that way). My husband of nearly 30 years is totally in love with me. He is kinda in love with this other woman, but she's...

I'm now wondering why I even asked. Was I trying to pick holes in your happy life, just cos I'm struggling and want everyone else to be struggling too?

This sounds really lovely. Is there any prospect of bringing your own family (well, maybe not your ex, but your child) into this lovely alternative family? I imagine that would just complete the circle for you. :)

Ta very much. Sorry I kept addressing you! I will search around for other wise souls.

I'm wondering if you missed this question I posted about dealing with the jealous feelings, and getting support around the feelings of insecurity. Sorry if I'm hassling.

A question about this, please! What I'm noticing is I don't doubt B's love for me. I'm very clear that he loves me. I'm sure insecurity is an important aspect of it. I almost feel 'lesser' because I don't fall in love with others myself. I actually suspect there's envy in there for me. I.e., I...

Hi Fidelia Lovely woman.... Just couldn't help noticing - you - and Mono actually - described as senior members, but only joined in August 2009! What's that about? Is this site a recent thing? Ta Fidelia x

I really like your clear thinking. Thank you.

You all seem to be saying we should all get together and talk about it. Here's my question: This all started about 2 years ago. After meeting her, and exploring the idea of them having a 'friendship,' I decided I couldn't trust it. (They'd been lying to me.) I eventually asked my husband to...

Thanks for this, Fidelia. You're all amazingly sweet. I've got another question, which I'll post in the right place, with a quote.

He says he doesn't sexualise her, although he just told me that he has wanted to kiss her. So I'm a bit confused now. In fact, I'm fucked off! I think he is confused. I think he should search around this site, and start working out for himself what he wants.

You're very kind. Thank you. I'll absorb this and see where it all takes me. Thanks again for your thoughts.

I think this might be what he's after. They have a very intellectual relationship, passionate, but not physical. But it could have developed that way because he wants to keep that boundary to protect us and our marriage. More to look into, I guess.

He tells me he doesn't want sex with her, although he is attracted to her. She's 20 years younger than him and very beautiful. An awful lot of our friends think he's kidding himself about the sex bit, but he insists it's not sexual for him. He's sexually very fulfilled with me, if that's...

Hiya - just to say - I've just joined this group. My situation is I've been married 30 years, and I'm mono, but my husband appears to be poly. He's been kinda interested in others always - and I've always been threatened by it, hurt, jealous. But he never stopped loving me. I've just started...