Recent content by Moneypenny

I know there are numerous threads about this topic but its difficult to search on my phone and I tried looking up "vee vs. triad" and it told me that "vee" is too short, lol. Anyway, so here's the deal: Theoretically, if I'm in a relationship with M and C and they aren't involved other than...

Found something interesting.... The story you are telling here sounds a lot like this story from the man's point of view in this thread: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39876 Is mrblueeyesxxx your husband?

=) Thank for being interested! I told him how I felt and how my husband was accepting, but he decided that he'd like to keep things casual. He feels that he'd like to get to know me and my husband more. We did only meet 2 months ago and haven't had many opportunities to be in person. I...

I don't think it would be a problem if the person you want to be involved with or are involved with takes care of themselves (with therapy, pills, whatever works for them, etc). I'm currently involved with T, and he has Tourette's and another mental issue but has taken control of his...

That is very true and coincidentally my husband actually came to me about this situation. He has been thinking about all of this and has concluded that he is okay with me having a boyfriend. :D Also, thanks for including this too. It's definitely a good place to start. I'm seeing the guy on...

Sorry, I guess I wasn't specific enough. We've been on a few dates (dinner, movie, etc) and I feel a possibility for something more and I think he may as well. I'm sure someone would ask, then why not wait for him to ask me? Well, because as he knows the situation with my husband not being...

I guess I'm looking for something more official than just friends....boyfriend if we're going to use a term.

But I'm nervous as hell to ask him to be in a relationship. Does anyone have any advice on how to go about asking? Background: I'm married with 1 child and have had an open relationship (swinging) with my husband since before we were married. I recently found out about and realized that I'm...

Thank you! Boundaries is more of a word that I was looking for! I also agree with you very much. My husband and I are new to this (obviously, lol) and I think using boundaries instead of rules suits us much better.

How do we make rules? I've been trying to read up on making rules, but have had a complete blank in where to begin. I'm looking to write rules (with my husband) for ourselves as a couple as well as rules regarding a secondary partner if/when both or one of us has one or more. Can anyone...

Thanks for the replies so far. Thanks, I'm definitely looking at the situation this way. This is a new beginning for the both of us. It took us years of trial and error to be able to have our relationship the way it is now (swinging), so it makes total sense that in order to be poly it will...

I think I may have stumbled on what my husband's real reservation is with me asking our friend to be in a poly relationship with me. We were discussing it last night and he said that he would have no problem with the relationship if our friend didnt live 5 hours away. He wouldn't even mind if he...

Thanks to anyone who reads this! Sorry it's long, I'm pretty thorough. My husband and I are looking to explore polyamory and I wanted to ask anyone who knows more than us some questions. Some background to our relationship: my husband and I have been together for 13 years (married for 5 of...